She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You missed "the ability to play an instrument".fuzzx said:Heres some things the wise 30 y/o has:
- Travel experience
- A good education
- A set of street skills
- A martial art
- A passport
- A positive attitude
- A curiosity about the world
- The ability to pickup a girl
- The ability to sell
- Money in the bank
- A story to tell
The most valuable things in life travel with you wherever you go.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
...we actually park all three of our cars in a 3-car garage! And none of those cars have a loan albeit the newest one is 8yrs old right now. Excessive car debt is a bigger waste of money than extended renting.Vulpine said:people, if they have space, will fill it with crap they don't need or use. Think he's making it up? I know everyone here has driven by a place where the garage door is up. How many of those places had no cars in the garage, just boxes of crap? How many had one car in a two car garage, but the other half is full of crap?
...I know the OP's topic has been derailed into non-material things, what not to have, showing off what we have, etc. But the words Vulpine writes above, to me, are well worth it the aside. Packrat, impulse buying is actually a much bigger problem than anyone really wants to address. To me it's a cancerous byproduct of our modern society. I can count couples and single people left and right who have so many useless things filling up all this great space with junk. What does that say about us. We fill up our valuable expensive space with crap. That's insane isn't it.Vulpine said:Packrat, impulse-buying consumers make me laugh. Sheep.
Buying crap to stuff in your apartment is just more stuff to move. Not only that, but more stuff to get beat up and/or destroyed during the move. But nobody wants to see that all their nice "stuff" only makes their lives harder.
Sinistar said:My Milwaukee Right Angle Drill has never let me down. But I didn't need to buy it new at a Home Depot to achieve that goal. I just needed to be patient and wait for the right listing or auction or sale to come along.
Sinistar said:.
I'd like to suggest a Man's Essential Item:
A wishlist. For years I have kept one of these. Some of the items are short term (less than 3 months) and most of them are longer term (6months and out). I stick to it. It slows things down. I keeps me from impulse buying. I rarely if every feel buyers remorse. And if I do I return any friggin' thing I'm not happy with. And I always look for it used first. My Milwaukee Right Angle Drill has never let me down. But I didn't need to buy it new at a Home Depot to achieve that goal. I just needed to be patient and wait for the right listing or auction or sale to come along.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.