Mama's Boy? Read This.

[amazingswayze]

You know the saying, "Mother knows best"? No, she really doesn't. I realized something lately. My mom doesn't understand me. She wants me to stay the same. She wants to hold on to her 'baby' for as long as possible. I understand though, because she has nobody else. It's just me and her at home. The thing is, I'm ready to fly away from the nest. I'm on a quest to be a man. I'm not satisfied with sitting at home all day. I want to live.

I've lived my whole life so far trying to please my mother. I never wanted to bring a girl home to mom unless she was the perfect girl. I denied myself my manhood all these years being the person she wanted me to be.

I go to the gym now. I'm trying to watch what I eat. What does she do? She buys me cookies, cakes, and chips. Why? I tell her every single time I don't want to eat this garbage anymore. I'm trying to live a certain lifestyle but she wants the opposite.

Mom is on my back now about college stuff. She wants all my information. She insists that I'm screwing up. It's only summer time. I filled out my FAFSA already. She's mad because I'm getting barely any financial aid. Not my fault.

I get pissed at my mom on a daily basis. She still calls me 'baby'. I have this serious belief that she suppresses my testosterone. Mom is holding me back. Don't get me wrong, she cooks, she cleans, and she provides, but it doesn't change the fact that she frustrates me. I just want to live.

It's time to fly away from the nest. :yes:

 

[TheException]

Then fly on brother....

Leaving home is one of the biggest thrills of life. Just be SMART about it. Make sure you enter a situation where you are being financially responsible and can handle it. Nothing worse than going back to the nest after leaving it.

 

[Rainman4707]

She is holding you back.

I respect Single mothers, but they do smother their sons & the boys seem to end up listening to mommy & her friends talking about girly stuff most of the time.

Thumbs up to you for noticing that you need to be a man. Whether that's spending more time doing manly stuff or whatever. The main thing is you realise that if you listen to your mother you will never be a man.

It's also worth noting that sometimes the people that love us most tend to hold us back. They aren't doing it to hurt us, but they do hold us back sometimes, although they think they are helping.

I advise you to read Dr Robert Glovers No More Mr Nice Guy, if you haven't already.
He writes about your situation & many other interesting stuff.

 

[El Payaso]

Yup. Mothers can be very smothering and are one of the biggest sources of AFCs starting from a very young age. They indoctrinate you into the AFC mentality which can take decades to shake off. It's terrible really.

 

[amazingswayze]

No More Mr. Nice Guy

She is holding you back.


I advise you to read Dr Robert Glovers No More Mr Nice Guy, if you haven't already.
He writes about your situation & many other interesting stuff.

I found the pdf version looking forward to a good read

 

[amazingswayze]

i don't give a fuk anymore about the little things i used to. i'm asserting my dominance in the household. i used to come home before curfew worried i would get in trouble. now i dictate the terms of when i go out. me and my mom love each other, and i'm feeling free.

she used to be so worried when i started driving, now she just accepts it. i stay out later, i don't take her as seriously. she might expect that i'm sexually active now, even though she hasn't asked me about it. she did leave me home alone for a week...

im breaking away slowly and enjoying life more. things are good. i will always love my mom but i will not always be her servant.

i'm living life on my terms.