"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mall Approach

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guys please comment on this line I personally use at the mall

"Hi, excuse me but what is your name?"


good? bad? lame? cheesy ?


what do you suggest instead ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I sometimes walk up to one girl and ask what time is it. And then i ask what she is going to buy.
 

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It is a solid openning, but only if you have the game to get pass the general pleasantries. Sometimes I b**** out of approachs because I don't have anything to say after the basics.

When performing at my best, it is because I've noticed something like a book she has or a college t-shirt that she's wearing. I need to develop the social skills and diversity of conversation that allows one to chat up any women at anytime.

:eek: if i could ever get past the anxiety of a group appraoch .....
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I did some mall approaches a bit ago, and I usually find that if it's a completely cold approach, chances of success are low to none (at least for me, and I'm not that good). However, if you are getting IOIs from her before you open the convo, go in there.

I just happen to look good in a tight shirt, so when I go out, I wear it. It gets me noticed, increasing her IL and giving me a better fighting chance. So do something that would get the HB's attention.

Your line seems too formal. Personally, I don't like the "excuse me". You don't need to be excused. After all if shes giving you IOIs, it is SHE who wants to meet you!

Try to notice something about her, and comment on it. Just be prepared to provide 90% of the conversation, initially. Don't expect a 50-50, like you would with a friend.
 

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way too hard, it's what i've been doing

many hot chicks are there to shopping with their friends, it's hard to approach them (for me anyway)

find lonely hot chick, ask her for opinion on what you should get for someone or asking her if the clothes looks good on you :D
 
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Originally posted by tom121
way too hard, it's what i've been doing

many hot chicks are there to shopping with their friends, it's hard to approach them (for me anyway)

find lonely hot chick, ask her for opinion on what you should get for someone or asking her if the clothes looks good on you :D

yep I've been thinking this same way too ....
gotta approach indirect (eventhough been indirect it is not my style)
 
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