Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
See this: Going SLOW http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1210128#post1210128
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
TotallySTR8UP said:I do realize that it does benefit women more than men.
*Shakes head* Haha, f*cking pathetic, I know.STR8UP said:I check out the pages of some of the women I know and it's almost comical the way they solicit attention.
I used to have 2 chics on my MySpace who did the same exact sh*t..it used to drive me up the f*cking wall, I tell ya. Like I really give a flying f*ck if you posted new pics. I had such a strong urge to tell them to shut the f*ck up and how they're not all that AT ALL(hence what 2 ugly b*tches I really think they are), but held my tongue. How much more pathetic can a woman get that she has to ask someone to leave them comments? That is downright lame as in lame. That's probably worse than more than 3/4 of all AFC acts. And women think what men do is pathetic, hah.STR8UP said:One of the 21 yr olds I know sends out a bulletin every time she updates her pictures to try to get people to leave picture comments. She even practically begged me one time to leave some picture comments.
Now that's an ignorant statement. Say's who? Quit letting the world around you dictate what needs to be done and what doesn't. Any guy who is still pulling tail in his 50's deserves a thumbs up. It is sad to see when a guy in his 50's ISN'T pulling tail.Nefty said:To still be "chasing tail" and using PUA techniques at age 50 is a sure-fire way of eventually being alone at 70. Sorry, but that's just sad.
In one's 50s, one should be settled down and enjoying family life.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ahh, the lonley old man myth rears it's ugly head again. Yet another feminine social convention.Nefty said:To still be "chasing tail" and using PUA techniques at age 50 is a sure-fire way of eventually being alone at 70. Sorry, but that's just sad.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
And another ignorant statement. Where is it written that a guy(or woman)in his 50's can't dress a certain way, or buy sports cars or Harleys? You might as well say the same about women too according to your argument then. There's pleeeenty of older women in their 40's and 50's doing the same. Don't be influenced by societal expectations. If there's anything "pathetic", being influenced by a bunch of mindless societal expectations, is pathetic. Use your own friggin' head, and do what YOU want. Get out of the f*cking matrix already.Nefty said:it's like these older men you see having a mid-life crisis, buying Harleys and sports cars and trying to dress like college kids......they're trying to turn back the clock, but it just doesn't 'fit'.
:crackup: Yes!! Rightful leadership!jophil28 said:" If we get together, I intend to assert my rightful leadership,and I will drop you if you do not like it. Perhaps with firmness and guidance you can be saved. "!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.