Dash Riprock
Master Don Juan
See this: Going SLOW http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1210128#post1210128
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
TotallySTR8UP said:I do realize that it does benefit women more than men.
*Shakes head* Haha, f*cking pathetic, I know.STR8UP said:I check out the pages of some of the women I know and it's almost comical the way they solicit attention.
I used to have 2 chics on my MySpace who did the same exact sh*t..it used to drive me up the f*cking wall, I tell ya. Like I really give a flying f*ck if you posted new pics. I had such a strong urge to tell them to shut the f*ck up and how they're not all that AT ALL(hence what 2 ugly b*tches I really think they are), but held my tongue. How much more pathetic can a woman get that she has to ask someone to leave them comments? That is downright lame as in lame. That's probably worse than more than 3/4 of all AFC acts. And women think what men do is pathetic, hah.STR8UP said:One of the 21 yr olds I know sends out a bulletin every time she updates her pictures to try to get people to leave picture comments. She even practically begged me one time to leave some picture comments.
Now that's an ignorant statement. Say's who? Quit letting the world around you dictate what needs to be done and what doesn't. Any guy who is still pulling tail in his 50's deserves a thumbs up. It is sad to see when a guy in his 50's ISN'T pulling tail.Nefty said:To still be "chasing tail" and using PUA techniques at age 50 is a sure-fire way of eventually being alone at 70. Sorry, but that's just sad.
In one's 50s, one should be settled down and enjoying family life.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Ahh, the lonley old man myth rears it's ugly head again. Yet another feminine social convention.Nefty said:To still be "chasing tail" and using PUA techniques at age 50 is a sure-fire way of eventually being alone at 70. Sorry, but that's just sad.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
And another ignorant statement. Where is it written that a guy(or woman)in his 50's can't dress a certain way, or buy sports cars or Harleys? You might as well say the same about women too according to your argument then. There's pleeeenty of older women in their 40's and 50's doing the same. Don't be influenced by societal expectations. If there's anything "pathetic", being influenced by a bunch of mindless societal expectations, is pathetic. Use your own friggin' head, and do what YOU want. Get out of the f*cking matrix already.Nefty said:it's like these older men you see having a mid-life crisis, buying Harleys and sports cars and trying to dress like college kids......they're trying to turn back the clock, but it just doesn't 'fit'.
:crackup: Yes!! Rightful leadership!jophil28 said:" If we get together, I intend to assert my rightful leadership,and I will drop you if you do not like it. Perhaps with firmness and guidance you can be saved. "!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.