Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Male friends Many or few? Close or distant?

Which most closely describes you Male Friend Pool

  • Many Acquaintances - Few Close Friends

    Votes: 7 35.0%
  • Few Close Friends - Few Acquaintances

    Votes: 8 40.0%
  • Many Close friends - Many acquaintances

    Votes: 2 10.0%
  • Few Friends or Acquaintances - One man wolfpack.

    Votes: 3 15.0%

  • Total voters
    20

2Rocky

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I'm curious if the guys here who proclaim to spin multiple plates with women do so with their male friends as well.

I have a number of male acquaintances but few I would call "close" . This pandemic hasn't helped as those I had were guys who participated in weekly leagues and events with.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheCharmingGuy

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One or two close male friends, one or two more close female friends, (some of which I’ve dated, some not), and a large group of male acquaintances. I feel pretty good about myself friends-wise and I can have just as much fun with them as with a girl on a date.
 

lost_blackbird

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Few Close Friends - Few Acquaintances
Unsurprising really.
 

Black Widow Void

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Unsure which option to choose.
Most people I know are beyond the acquaintance level (I'm old and lived in the same town for a while) but I find most of them usually uninteresting. I'll still attend their social events, but as people, I wouldn't miss most if they moved away.
I have five friends that I genuinely care about.
 
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