"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Male and Female Breakdown of Looks

SoSerene

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From concensus in another thread, the male breakdown should look something like this...

Male looks
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35% Face - Shape, Eyes, Nose, Skin tone, Skin quality etc.
25% Body - Muscles, in/out of shape, fat/skinny?
20% Height - Tall? Short? Average?
10% Style - Clothing, accessories etc.
10% Hair - bald? thinning hair? cool hair style?

Female looks
:

35% Face - Shape, Eyes, Nose, Skin tone, Skin quality etc.
35% Body - athletic, thin, fat, curvy
10% Style - clothing, fit, colour, jewelry etc.
10% Hair - long, short, straight, frizzy
10% Height - too short? too lanky and tall?

I think body is definitely more important for a girl, since a chick who is 20 lbs overweight will be seen at a disadvantage as opposed to a guy who isn't in shape isn't out of the game. Height isn't as important for women however, as long as she isn't too far to one side. Some guys argue that height for a girl doesn't matter at all, but I would contend that most guys would prefer a girl around 5'6'' or so rather than someone only 5'0'' or an amazon that is 6'0'' tall. Things such as hair, style, and face are fairly similar between the two sexes. Overall breakdowns are pretty close to one another with a couple minor differences.

Girls can do a lot more to improve their look just by getting in shape, working out, and improving their body. While guys can also improve their fitness, height is more important comparatively which is something that can't be changed. That being said, making improvements to every area can make you look, feel, and act better in everyday life.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Down Low

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SoSerene said:
From concensus in another thread, the male breakdown should look something like this...
See, that's why the scientific method doesn't rely on consensus, voting, or any other way of measuring the lowest common denominator. You forgot the most important, objective measure of a woman's market value: her age. That's why my system deducts % for every year over age 18.
 

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What the phuck is this? There was a thread just like this a week or two ago. Why are you guys trying to break this down as a science? Girls see the whole picture, man.

You guys need to get over this stuff. If you're good looking then you're good looking. If you're fat you may be good looking underneath, but you won't find out until you get up and start running. So do everything you can to improve yourself, but don't spend hours pining over it because it will mess you up mentally.
 

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SoSerene said:
From concensus in another thread, the male breakdown should look something like this...

Male looks
:

35% Face - Shape, Eyes, Nose, Skin tone, Skin quality etc.
25% Body - Muscles, in/out of shape, fat/skinny?
20% Height - Tall? Short? Average?
10% Style - Clothing, accessories etc.
10% Hair - bald? thinning hair? cool hair style?

Female looks
:

35% Face - Shape, Eyes, Nose, Skin tone, Skin quality etc.
35% Body - athletic, thin, fat, curvy
10% Style - clothing, fit, colour, jewelry etc.
10% Hair - long, short, straight, frizzy
10% Height - too short? too lanky and tall?

I think body is definitely more important for a girl, since a chick who is 20 lbs overweight will be seen at a disadvantage as opposed to a guy who isn't in shape isn't out of the game. Height isn't as important for women however, as long as she isn't too far to one side. Some guys argue that height for a girl doesn't matter at all, but I would contend that most guys would prefer a girl around 5'6'' or so rather than someone only 5'0'' or an amazon that is 6'0'' tall. Things such as hair, style, and face are fairly similar between the two sexes. Overall breakdowns are pretty close to one another with a couple minor differences.

Girls can do a lot more to improve their look just by getting in shape, working out, and improving their body. While guys can also improve their fitness, height is more important comparatively which is something that can't be changed. That being said, making improvements to every area can make you look, feel, and act better in everyday life.
Now when you say 35%, do you mean 35% or is it closer to 32.7% or 36.9%?

It's very important for me to know the margin of error on these. I just want to make sure the numbers are correct before I talk to any girls who aren't mathematically compatible with me. Once I have the correct numbers, I'll know if it's okay to start talking to girls.

Thanks!
 

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Iceberg said:
Now when you say 35%, do you mean 35% or is it closer to 32.7% or 36.9%?

It's very important for me to know the margin of error on these. I just want to make sure the numbers are correct before I talk to any girls who aren't mathematically compatible with me. Once I have the correct numbers, I'll know if it's okay to start talking to girls.

Thanks!
Strong sarcasm is indeed quite strong.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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ilikecharlene

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Disagree. i cannot relate to viewing men, but viewing women is subjective. in some cases, hair type is as high as body/face.
 

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How about this. If you think a girl is attractive, get to know them. If you think they are ugly, don't bother. That simple my friends.
 
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