"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Making your point with someone who won't listen

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This one is only involving females in a background scenery, but I'm sure we've all ran across this phenomenon a few times...

How best to communicate with another man, who doesn't let you finish talking-ever.
An idiot...that I work with, unfortunately. I'm new, so he's trying to assert his "authority"...a joke in itself.

Nevertheless I have to deal with these idiots for 8 hours a night. One each night, on alternating nights.
Ugh. The IQs of Jellyfish, lmao.

Ideas? Suggestions?
Ultimately there's a woman in my future, who isn't involved with any of us presently, but a future possibility that could depend on my handling of these two "geniusnesses".
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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This one is only involving females in a background scenery, but I'm sure we've all ran across this phenomenon a few times...

How best to communicate with another man, who doesn't let you finish talking-ever.
An idiot...that I work with, unfortunately. I'm new, so he's trying to assert his "authority"...a joke in itself.

Nevertheless I have to deal with these idiots for 8 hours a night. One each night, on alternating nights.
Ugh. The IQs of Jellyfish, lmao.

Ideas? Suggestions?
Ultimately there's a woman in my future, who isn't involved with any of us presently, but a future possibility that could depend on my handling of these two "geniusnesses".
You can’t force a person to have respect and consideration for another if they don’t have it. That said, one technique I have used in the past is to remain quiet and listen, maybe a slight nod here and there, don’t smile, no nothing else. Do it long enough and they will eventually ask what you think if they care to know , and they will listen to your opinion.
 
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The way to deal with them is dont deal with them, the paradox acts that you projected will trigger their couriousity will soon resolve the indifference in a men to men way.. No worries this is a part of life learning experience.
 
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