"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Making your point with someone who won't listen

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This one is only involving females in a background scenery, but I'm sure we've all ran across this phenomenon a few times...

How best to communicate with another man, who doesn't let you finish talking-ever.
An idiot...that I work with, unfortunately. I'm new, so he's trying to assert his "authority"...a joke in itself.

Nevertheless I have to deal with these idiots for 8 hours a night. One each night, on alternating nights.
Ugh. The IQs of Jellyfish, lmao.

Ideas? Suggestions?
Ultimately there's a woman in my future, who isn't involved with any of us presently, but a future possibility that could depend on my handling of these two "geniusnesses".
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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This one is only involving females in a background scenery, but I'm sure we've all ran across this phenomenon a few times...

How best to communicate with another man, who doesn't let you finish talking-ever.
An idiot...that I work with, unfortunately. I'm new, so he's trying to assert his "authority"...a joke in itself.

Nevertheless I have to deal with these idiots for 8 hours a night. One each night, on alternating nights.
Ugh. The IQs of Jellyfish, lmao.

Ideas? Suggestions?
Ultimately there's a woman in my future, who isn't involved with any of us presently, but a future possibility that could depend on my handling of these two "geniusnesses".
You can’t force a person to have respect and consideration for another if they don’t have it. That said, one technique I have used in the past is to remain quiet and listen, maybe a slight nod here and there, don’t smile, no nothing else. Do it long enough and they will eventually ask what you think if they care to know , and they will listen to your opinion.
 
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The way to deal with them is dont deal with them, the paradox acts that you projected will trigger their couriousity will soon resolve the indifference in a men to men way.. No worries this is a part of life learning experience.
 
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