"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Making the right move

Matty

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Okay, there's this girl I've been friends with for quite a while now. I'm practically 100% sure she's interested in me, and I'd like to take our friendship to another level. I'm not talking relationship status, but I'd at least like to start hooking up with her. However, I'm pretty sure she's interested in another guy, as well, and I'd like to make a move before he does. We just hung out today, and I'd like to set things in motion, but I'm unsure of what my next move should be. Do I wait for her to establish contact with me again? Or do I take the initiative to set up another rendezvous? I don't want to exude desperation or needy-ness, but I feel time is kind of the essence here.

Any comments would be much appreciated.

-Matty:cool:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ARrocket

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Now, this is a very touch subject. I'm pretty inexperienced myself, but I'll get the ball rolling here, and let's hope that others pitch in :)

It depends on how close you have gotten to this girl. The closer of a friend you are to her, the more complicated (and unlikely that it's gonna work) this is gonna be.

I think you should start to use some heavy kino on this girl, and gauge her reaction. Start to see a bit less of her....lots of C&F, flirt to the max. Maybe let her know about some other girls....get that jealousy factor working...it's powerful ;)

Anybody else got any ideas? I'd love to learn more on the subject myself :)
 
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