"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Making mistakes

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When most men go on dates they go in fear. Afraid of doing something wrong or saying something wrong. Anybody dating with this mindset are at a big disadvantage before the date has even begun. Then the date comes along and they are paralysed with fear. Thats why we see all the "I fvcked up threads".


Because of the fear of making a mistake it causes the person to think about everything they are doing or saying. They become very self conscious and the female will easily pick up on this a mile off.


People who over think things, over think things because basically they think everything has to be perfect to impress the woman and they end up putting themselves under huge pressure.


A change of mindset is needed. It's not the mistakes but its how you react to the mistakes you make. You can turn a negative into a positive by simply doing nothing.


Instead of seeing mistake as being bad try looking at it from another angle. DJ's make mistakes too but the thing is how the DJ's react to the mistakes. They don't really care and the woman knows this. They don't get flustered. They actually make the situation into a positive because they show the woman that they're not bothered by mistakes and that they are still comfortable in the situation.


So to sum it up most of the time when a person thinks he "fvcked up" by saying or doing the wrong thing he really fvcked up by reacting badly to his own mistake.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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