Making it *click*, among other things.

[Cloud-uk]

Grrrr, damn forum being offline over the weekend, I needed to vent/ask for advice over something. Ho hum, bit late now, probably did the right thing.

Ok, I'm at a new school, and it's rele good. I'm in mixed state education finally! But there's a lot of very fit girls and guys who are probably very good players. At the moment I would concider myself outclassed by a few guys, so i need to up my game sharpish.

One big question, I was thinking about this on the train home today. How do you make it *click* with a girl? We all know that girl's work out if you're **** material in the first 3 seconds you meet blah blah FIRST IMPRESSIONS= BIG DEAL.

Now, you can make a start by looking nice, being fun, funny, smileing, having good body language yadda yadda yadda- that's all well and good. Think is the goal posts have been moved for me, like I said in my last post, I'm playing at a different level, basicly a different game. And I'm going to need some sparkle!

I'm talking about great ideas from you guys that can let me hit that "prince charming" chord with a girl when i see her in the morning. I'm talking about stuff she'd tell her friends at some point as the "moment she fell for me" (eugh, that was very disney....). You know what I'm talking about, meeting their eye's and FIREWORKS! I swear if you can elict fireworks in a girl, you've won. I've worked on my looks, my confidence, my body language, its all part of me now. In this new game, I need the edge. SOme guys look like models, some guys are natuarally good at what i'm saying, but I need to learn it, just like I've needed to learn everything else. Give me some ideas.

Also, how to look older? I'm going to need to start going to pubs, its becoming the dun thing. Its either that or convincing everyone to come over mine on fri nights, and that's just a bad idea. Wouldn't mind some tips on looking older, and I need to get a fake id, I'll pick one up from an internet site.

Finally, any tips on feeling jealous? I just dumped my girlfriend cos she cheated on me repeatedly and she was no use to me as a **** buddy. Yet I can't help feeling hurt whenever I hear (or will hear) she gets off with other guys. I know its petty and AFC, but she was the first girl I ever really liked and enjoyed. So I guess that just make's it more accute, anyway, any advice on getting rid of the pain would be great!

Ps. I'm hoping to really refine myself as a DJ over the next few weeks. I plan to get another girlfriend- since the last one was a lot of fun (though I think now we're supposed to hate each other...humph!), and generally become a superior person. Really push it untill 1/2 term, then I'll have a look back. In some respects (being a good, fun, interesting guy who just dumped the fittest girl in her school) I'm becoming Cloud"greatest guy in the universe"-uk, and in others (Some nagging insecurities, might be sociallising with a bit too many girls(player only goes so far untill you hit homo), and an annoying likeing of my ex) are still very Cloud"do you have any balls?"-uk. Hope to sort that out. Oh and I think I'll give the having no morals a rest, it's proabbly true, but it makes you a bit grumpy now and then, so maybe I'll become a budhist. Or a wiccan. Sounds like fun.

Cheers for reading.

 

[deeloo]

not sure about the prince charming part but for the other 2 questions

to look older.. basically alter ur style of clothin according to the current adult style.. im not sure how old you are.. but personally i am 16.. I dress like im a rich 25-yr-old.. just more collared shirt.. not a lot of t-shirts.. a dress shirt is nice as well.. the jeans or pants shouldnt sag too much.. it should be just right.. and really nice shoes to go with.. designer clothing is nice.. i wear versace, paul shark.. AX and my favorite is burberry.. then it comes to hair.. get yourself groomed well.. get a good hairstyle.. if u have a chubby face that makes u look kiddish.. then kinda grow it down a little.. cover it up.. but if u look ok just go for the normal gelled up look

and u cant really do anything about feelin jealous.. just stop investing so much feelin onto someone.. i used to get really jealous.. but now i just tell myself.. so what.. i can have more fun with other girls than that.. and it calms you down

cheers

 

[donny osmond]

Feelin you mate, your probably in the year below me (T1, Lower Sixth?) and i was new to the whole 'pub scene' last year.


Basically, to get in to pubs/clubs its 60% body language, 40% looks. Stride in and say alright to the bouncer. It's best to get buddyish with bouncers/barmen/maids in general as they will remember you the next time. Just something like, "Busy night tonight then mate?" will do.


Your in tertiary/sixth form now. The MOST important thing you can do to make yourself look older/increase confidence is to (if you don't already) Lift Weights.


Research the H+F forum to death, then make yourself a routine and stick to it. A lot of people lift weights in the USA but it is very uncommon to find somone (especially at our age) who lifts in the UK.


To looks older when going out, make sure when your wearing a shirt you don't do the buttons up to the top, undo it enough to see a little flesh and it DOES make you look older, and more attractive to ladies.


Thats all for now mate, but if you want anymore tips just ask


Donny

 

[Cloud-uk]

hahaha, damn...I lift every other day and I wear ettienne ozeki shirts (top undone, sleaves rolled up ), good fitting jeans and nice shoes. Oh bums.

New plan: grow a beard. I'm serious with this one, or some designer ***** stubble. Deep deep joy.

Oh, donny, thanks for the advice about presenting yourself, that's really good stuff. I'll definetly do that. Sadly, I think I look my age- 16. Ah well, no biggie, I'll just get my mates to buy drinks for me.

Deeloo, yeah I guess you're right, I think I've found someone better anyway, so screw her, it's just taking a bit of time to get out of my mind.

Still looking for *sparkle* (cue faries and pixies n ****) guys, though I've got an idea of something that works. This girl I'm Djing atm seems to get very doe eyed when I talk to her about us feeling like we'd met before. She then carried on to all this stuff about having met in a previos life for which i think I fell asleep, but the point is she seemed pretty enthralled. That was a definate "ment to be" chord hitter. See what i mean? Thing is that only seemed to work for me cos she started the idea. I need more stuff like this, but stuff I can apply anytime!

Any ideas, no matter how stupid (that's not a challenge) will be appreciated.

 

[THA REALNESS]

You can't force emotional connections with people,Cloud.Uk

That's why it's called "clicking "with somebody it happens or just doesn't even if it someone that you have similar likes ,personalities and have things in common with it just might not work.


Forget about your ex-gf ,ascap.Forget about all of your past lovers and what they are doing .Focus on yourself.


Also ,look they way you wanna look ,don't just fit in ,be yourself.It's common decency and common sense to try and buddy up to new people and a new situation but you shouldn't become part of the herd.

 

[Cloud-uk]

lol, well done, that was a very irrelevent post. But I guess I said even stupid suggestions would be appreciated, so now I'm changing that. Only stupid posts that make me laugh will be appreciated.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Hey they call it 6th form over here too and I'm in it also! Lucky b@stard, I can't go to bars/clubs/pubs til I'm 18...

I'm not sure about the growing a beard thing, cuz for teenagers trying to grow a beard if it doesn't come in full, it doesn't look good more like you are trying to be older than you really are.

To get known just tag around with a girl who is nice to you, for about a day or so and get to know her (and her friends )

The best tip I can give for fireworks is to have great EC. Like looking into her eyes and just thinking "what could she be thinking," kinda getting lost in her eyes. It sounds weird but it makes people feel closer.

And don't worry about learning the stuff, you are a natural, you just need to uncover all the things you were destined to learn earlier in life but were blinded (afc)

 

[Cloud-uk]

lol, I realised I'm so not outclassed. There's a bunch of guys at this school that look pretty good but they're just AFCs, no confidence, emotional. They talk to lots of fit girls cos they're their friends. It just took me 2 weeks to realise. Already got a rep as a player, in two weeks, and without getting with anyone! Madness I tell you! Just proof that player is a state of mind, not getting with lots of girls. Though I should get on with the second, that's kind of the point after all...

As for the clicking thing, I get it now, its something I do anyway with most fit girls. Yeah, "getting lost in their eyes" is what I'm talking about. Also elicting a feeling of having met before with them, that you are both very similar, mirroring, just getting a sence of "ment to be" in there. Just something for you aspireing DJ's to remember, along with being funny, charming, interesting and good looking!

About the beard thing, I'm going to grow a very short bit of facial hair, just to see what it looks like. I get the general feeling that there's not much I can do to look any older concidering I already dress pretty good. Oh well, maybe I'll have to wait until I'm actually 18, or just live on house parties.

Anyway, thanks for the advice y'all, better get back to being a player...