"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Making fun of girls: how to know when you're going too far?

Demystify

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So I've discovered that playfully making fun of girls (neg/****y funny) works really really well for me. But I'm too socially inept to discern the difference between playfully making fun of a girl and saying something so mean it makes the girl cry and run off to another guy. So how do I know when I'm going too far with the neg?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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arutha

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Demystify said:
So I've discovered
Since sooo much of C&F depends on delivery not what you actually say, you can't say x amount will make her cry. You've discovered that it works, now why don't you discover how far you can push it? Always more targets if you scare a couple away, then you know your own limit. See what works.

In my experience though, C&F is not offensive at all and its not meant to be, as long as you keep it witty not insulting, remember the F stands for FUNNY, I have pretty much laid on the C&F non-stop on girls and they keep coming back for more. Its just playful teasing, you shouldn't be insulting at all. As long as shes still laughing don't stop. Just remember it is not your only tool, it works really well with kino and mix it up a bit.
 

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the whole purpose of making fun of a girl is to do it to girls who need to be taken down a notch cuz they think they're hot sh!t cuz guys always go AFC for them....if you say that stuff to a girl who could have lower self esteem then you could really upset the poor girl and make her self conscious and she wasnt even in need of the 'neg' to begin with lol

the other day i was on a double date, and on the drive to the place, me and the other guy were up front and my female friend and my hb8 date she hooked me up with were in the back. i was looking back cuz i was merging and i said "hey move ur big ass head outta the way i gotta see if theres any cars"(said it in a cute way) she laughed and said something to my female friend like "oh my god is he always such a jerk"......she was mine the rest of the night. hasn't returned my text from yesterday yet though lol but oh well.
 

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you want to know the biggest wisdom in using and how to sue CF? Not giving a fvck about it. That's it. So she gets offended, who gives a sh!t? Plus if you do CF with that kind of attitude, she can read it. But if you use CF worried to death if you're overdoing it or if she will get offended, trust me, you are doing it all wrong and she will use that.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Demystify

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moneyisking said:
you want to know the biggest wisdom in using and how to sue CF? Not giving a fvck about it. That's it. So she gets offended, who gives a sh!t? Plus if you do CF with that kind of attitude, she can read it. But if you use CF worried to death if you're overdoing it or if she will get offended, trust me, you are doing it all wrong and she will use that.
I know what you mean. Usually when I do well with CF I don't even check to see if she approved of the comment or not. I say it like I mean it and I'm not going back on it.
 

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As long as you have confidence and social proof, you could call her a fat ugly *** dumpster and she wouldn't get mad at you.

It's not what you say that matters, but how you say it and who the person saying it is.
 

Ambition Now

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The Knew Guy said:
A general rule is do NOT crack jokes about a REAL physical flaw. If she has f*cked up teeth, do NOT make fun of her teeth, if she has tiny tits, do NOT make fun of that. No jokes about any factual physical flaws.
Depends on the girl, some women I treat with more respect them others...

Once a girl asked me to to make a photo of her look better using photoshop, I pasted a picture of megan fox face on her face and sent to her: "Thats the only way this photo can look better."

Amazingly she laughed as f*ck. lol
 

Ambition Now

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The Knew Guy said:
Once a girl sent me her picture and asked how it was. I told her no offense but it kind of looks like you have down syndrome. She laughed so hard, just at the fact that I had the balls to say that to her.

Its really weird the things I've gotten away with saying.
Lol!

Right now I wish I had pasted the picture of Susan Boyle on her face...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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