"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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making friends in a new country

Packers2010

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hey guys,

most of you know i have been an afc all my life. now i have turned the corner and i am not looking back.

everything is coming along nicely. i am moving from the old me into someone new. LITERARY!

i am moving to a new country in 2 weeks (wales to be exact if anyone needs a wing). i am young (21) and will be able to get a new start on life. witch is what i want.

the best part in all this is i get to CHOOSE who i want to be. i say this because because before i was an afc. but now i feel like i am different and i can handle girls a lot more then i could before but the friends i have here don't see that.

so my question in all this is:

what would be the best way about making new friends?

before i left people push me around. i let them walk all over me. but things are going to be different this time around!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mantis Toboggan

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Chamber36 said:
changes don't come instantly you know.

You better know what you did wrong so you can avoid the pitfalls.

I must say, the most demanding people of all are narcissists.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjFnn-sI_ks and
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iFUuaw8Pf1M&feature=related

Don't fall into people's traps.

To make new friends.... I'd have to say it takes about 2 years to become friends with somebody so GL.

You are gonna have to make it on your first imho.
I'm not sure what narcissism or being demanding has to do with making friends.

I'm going to offer things with a more positive spin....I'd say that the first place you can make friends is at your job. You'll be there everyday, and you have plenty of topics to bond over.

Aside from that, I've made friends at the bars I go to, or my gym.

I'd think that you could also join clubs based around your hobbies and interests. Once you have a social group, it'll be easier to branch out and meet some females too.
 

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One point that I try to drive home is the cliques form very quickly. So first impressions are key.

Be friendly and positive from the first time you walk in the door. This is true at work, parties, and any kind of group or anywhere peope gather.

If you are naturally introverted and start out quiet, you will be fighting an uphill battle. If you start out too shy/quiet, people will be much less receptve to you later.
 
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