"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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making friends in a new country

Packers2010

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hey guys,

most of you know i have been an afc all my life. now i have turned the corner and i am not looking back.

everything is coming along nicely. i am moving from the old me into someone new. LITERARY!

i am moving to a new country in 2 weeks (wales to be exact if anyone needs a wing). i am young (21) and will be able to get a new start on life. witch is what i want.

the best part in all this is i get to CHOOSE who i want to be. i say this because because before i was an afc. but now i feel like i am different and i can handle girls a lot more then i could before but the friends i have here don't see that.

so my question in all this is:

what would be the best way about making new friends?

before i left people push me around. i let them walk all over me. but things are going to be different this time around!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Chamber36 said:
changes don't come instantly you know.

You better know what you did wrong so you can avoid the pitfalls.

I must say, the most demanding people of all are narcissists.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjFnn-sI_ks and
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iFUuaw8Pf1M&feature=related

Don't fall into people's traps.

To make new friends.... I'd have to say it takes about 2 years to become friends with somebody so GL.

You are gonna have to make it on your first imho.
I'm not sure what narcissism or being demanding has to do with making friends.

I'm going to offer things with a more positive spin....I'd say that the first place you can make friends is at your job. You'll be there everyday, and you have plenty of topics to bond over.

Aside from that, I've made friends at the bars I go to, or my gym.

I'd think that you could also join clubs based around your hobbies and interests. Once you have a social group, it'll be easier to branch out and meet some females too.
 

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One point that I try to drive home is the cliques form very quickly. So first impressions are key.

Be friendly and positive from the first time you walk in the door. This is true at work, parties, and any kind of group or anywhere peope gather.

If you are naturally introverted and start out quiet, you will be fighting an uphill battle. If you start out too shy/quiet, people will be much less receptve to you later.
 
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