"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Making friends in a new city

Deep Dish

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About a year from now, I will be moving to inside of the Washington DC Beltway, to be closer to family.

It's a great area but the one big sticking point which made me pause for a few months before making the decision is the loss of friends. Making friends in middle age life is not the same thing as when you are young.

There are special interest groups, and I do plan on joining a French meet-up group, which I have looked into, but I have one other play in my playbook which I would like to share.

Become a regular at restaurants.

It takes a good amount of time to find a good restaurant to be a regular, because it needs good food, reasonable prices, a good atmosphere, and a good crew.

The restaurant pretty much needs a bar, too. I'm not much of a drinker, but the bar is a social experience rather than sitting isolated at a table. You get to know the staff and regulars. I remember something from pickup artistry about "making friends with the room."

Plus, there's almost always a seat available at the bar even when there is an hour or two wait at the door.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SW15

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Meetup.com groups are absolute garbage. Some social groups are worthwhile but anything affiliated with Meetup.com is garbage.

Becoming a regular at a place has the potential to be helpful. I'm not sure that matters as much now as compared to the 1990s-2000s. A lot of people are playing on the smartphones now whereas in the 1990s-2000s, that wasn't a thing. Smartphones didn't arrive on the market until the late 2000s.
 

BackInTheGame78

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I've heard that is the singular worst traffic city in the US. At least Washington DC itself...hopefully you are going to be somewhere outside that area
 

Apone

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Check out InterNations. I've had good luck there. Much better than AutismMeetUp
 
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