I'm a sophomore in high school. There's this girl i've known for five years now who recently became attractive last year (puberty). In general, I am a pretty confident person who keeps his shoulders up around school, wears decent clothing, etc. the girl i'm aiming for is a sports star, but not really in the slutty girl clique. I'm not very good with girls. I haven't had a real kiss yet and have been on three dates, all of which were failures cause the girls were obsessed with me and I was turned off. the problem i'm facing right now is that I never know what to say to a girl. i don't play any school sports, I just dance. it's hard to find some common ground to talk about other than lame school work... And even if I did find some way to start conversation, I always struggle with keeping it going. I've been going thru Pook's book but some personal advice would really be helpful.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Making Conversation
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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I'd recommend reading (or listening to) Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now. It helped me a lot with conversation and relating to people. The key is letting it come naturally out of genuine interest in the person you're talking to. Really WANT to hear the things they have to say.
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Don't talk about passions (i.e sport or dancing) talk with passion. Talk from your intent of doing things with her and having fun about any random crap. ask her how she is, what she has been up too, what she is doing on the weekend... No fancy conversational skills required. In fact, they're somewhat of a mood-killer and time-waster. It is about you having fun so she has fun and you feeling sexual so she feels sexual around you.
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Yup. It's just about expressiveness and fun. Lower your standard for what's acceptable to talk about.
saw this on amazon. spiritual enlightenment? hmmLearningSlowly said:I'd recommend reading (or listening to) Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now. It helped me a lot with conversation and relating to people. The key is letting it come naturally out of genuine interest in the person you're talking to. Really WANT to hear the things they have to say.
Norwegian, what's that blueprint movie u talk about in many of ur posts?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Example: (Girl is always in italics, you are bolded)
My day has been hella hectic, you wouldn't believe half the stuff I told ya.
Try me.
Well, first I scrambled in late to my first period class, then my phone rings. Turns out Tommy Hilfiger called me and asked me to be an underwear model.
Haha, you? An underwear model?
Of course babe, people call me the gun show, because I'm packing some heat. *Say all this $h!t with every intention that you know you're just busting her balls.
Hahaha....wowwwww
Haha, now that I've gotten you all thinking about my package...how was your day?
And just capitalize from there. She says something interesting or something you're genuinely interested in, take advantage of that situation and tell her what you think of that and ask her more of it. It's simple, but it takes a good mental game.
Be in the now, be confident, be funny, and just enjoy life. Don't take anything too seriously, and just have fun. When the person you're with sees you having fun, they absorb that aura and they in turn will have fun.
*Also, start out with some funny, superficial teasing/bantering like I exampled up top. Always starting with something more serious doesn't really set the tone, or open the girl up. When you get her laughing and more into the conversation, she will open herself up more, and THEN that's when you start trying to make a connection.
~B-Smooth
My day has been hella hectic, you wouldn't believe half the stuff I told ya.
Try me.
Well, first I scrambled in late to my first period class, then my phone rings. Turns out Tommy Hilfiger called me and asked me to be an underwear model.
Haha, you? An underwear model?
Of course babe, people call me the gun show, because I'm packing some heat. *Say all this $h!t with every intention that you know you're just busting her balls.
Hahaha....wowwwww
Haha, now that I've gotten you all thinking about my package...how was your day?
And just capitalize from there. She says something interesting or something you're genuinely interested in, take advantage of that situation and tell her what you think of that and ask her more of it. It's simple, but it takes a good mental game.
Be in the now, be confident, be funny, and just enjoy life. Don't take anything too seriously, and just have fun. When the person you're with sees you having fun, they absorb that aura and they in turn will have fun.
*Also, start out with some funny, superficial teasing/bantering like I exampled up top. Always starting with something more serious doesn't really set the tone, or open the girl up. When you get her laughing and more into the conversation, she will open herself up more, and THEN that's when you start trying to make a connection.
~B-Smooth
I believe you're talking about Tyler Durden's Blueprintasianbboy said:Norwegian, what's that blueprint movie u talk about in many of ur posts?
http://thepiratebay.org/torrent/409...s_(Tyler_Durden)_-_The_Blueprint_Decoded_DVDs
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