I'm a sophomore in high school. There's this girl i've known for five years now who recently became attractive last year (puberty). In general, I am a pretty confident person who keeps his shoulders up around school, wears decent clothing, etc. the girl i'm aiming for is a sports star, but not really in the slutty girl clique. I'm not very good with girls. I haven't had a real kiss yet and have been on three dates, all of which were failures cause the girls were obsessed with me and I was turned off. the problem i'm facing right now is that I never know what to say to a girl. i don't play any school sports, I just dance. it's hard to find some common ground to talk about other than lame school work... And even if I did find some way to start conversation, I always struggle with keeping it going. I've been going thru Pook's book but some personal advice would really be helpful.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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I'd recommend reading (or listening to) Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now. It helped me a lot with conversation and relating to people. The key is letting it come naturally out of genuine interest in the person you're talking to. Really WANT to hear the things they have to say.
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Don't talk about passions (i.e sport or dancing) talk with passion. Talk from your intent of doing things with her and having fun about any random crap. ask her how she is, what she has been up too, what she is doing on the weekend... No fancy conversational skills required. In fact, they're somewhat of a mood-killer and time-waster. It is about you having fun so she has fun and you feeling sexual so she feels sexual around you.
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Yup. It's just about expressiveness and fun. Lower your standard for what's acceptable to talk about.
saw this on amazon. spiritual enlightenment? hmmLearningSlowly said:I'd recommend reading (or listening to) Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now. It helped me a lot with conversation and relating to people. The key is letting it come naturally out of genuine interest in the person you're talking to. Really WANT to hear the things they have to say.
Norwegian, what's that blueprint movie u talk about in many of ur posts?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Example: (Girl is always in italics, you are bolded)
My day has been hella hectic, you wouldn't believe half the stuff I told ya.
Try me.
Well, first I scrambled in late to my first period class, then my phone rings. Turns out Tommy Hilfiger called me and asked me to be an underwear model.
Haha, you? An underwear model?
Of course babe, people call me the gun show, because I'm packing some heat. *Say all this $h!t with every intention that you know you're just busting her balls.
Hahaha....wowwwww
Haha, now that I've gotten you all thinking about my package...how was your day?
And just capitalize from there. She says something interesting or something you're genuinely interested in, take advantage of that situation and tell her what you think of that and ask her more of it. It's simple, but it takes a good mental game.
Be in the now, be confident, be funny, and just enjoy life. Don't take anything too seriously, and just have fun. When the person you're with sees you having fun, they absorb that aura and they in turn will have fun.
*Also, start out with some funny, superficial teasing/bantering like I exampled up top. Always starting with something more serious doesn't really set the tone, or open the girl up. When you get her laughing and more into the conversation, she will open herself up more, and THEN that's when you start trying to make a connection.
~B-Smooth
My day has been hella hectic, you wouldn't believe half the stuff I told ya.
Try me.
Well, first I scrambled in late to my first period class, then my phone rings. Turns out Tommy Hilfiger called me and asked me to be an underwear model.
Haha, you? An underwear model?
Of course babe, people call me the gun show, because I'm packing some heat. *Say all this $h!t with every intention that you know you're just busting her balls.
Hahaha....wowwwww
Haha, now that I've gotten you all thinking about my package...how was your day?
And just capitalize from there. She says something interesting or something you're genuinely interested in, take advantage of that situation and tell her what you think of that and ask her more of it. It's simple, but it takes a good mental game.
Be in the now, be confident, be funny, and just enjoy life. Don't take anything too seriously, and just have fun. When the person you're with sees you having fun, they absorb that aura and they in turn will have fun.
*Also, start out with some funny, superficial teasing/bantering like I exampled up top. Always starting with something more serious doesn't really set the tone, or open the girl up. When you get her laughing and more into the conversation, she will open herself up more, and THEN that's when you start trying to make a connection.
~B-Smooth
I believe you're talking about Tyler Durden's Blueprintasianbboy said:Norwegian, what's that blueprint movie u talk about in many of ur posts?
http://thepiratebay.org/torrent/409...s_(Tyler_Durden)_-_The_Blueprint_Decoded_DVDs
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