I'm a sophomore in high school. There's this girl i've known for five years now who recently became attractive last year (puberty). In general, I am a pretty confident person who keeps his shoulders up around school, wears decent clothing, etc. the girl i'm aiming for is a sports star, but not really in the slutty girl clique. I'm not very good with girls. I haven't had a real kiss yet and have been on three dates, all of which were failures cause the girls were obsessed with me and I was turned off. the problem i'm facing right now is that I never know what to say to a girl. i don't play any school sports, I just dance. it's hard to find some common ground to talk about other than lame school work... And even if I did find some way to start conversation, I always struggle with keeping it going. I've been going thru Pook's book but some personal advice would really be helpful.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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I'd recommend reading (or listening to) Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now. It helped me a lot with conversation and relating to people. The key is letting it come naturally out of genuine interest in the person you're talking to. Really WANT to hear the things they have to say.
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Don't talk about passions (i.e sport or dancing) talk with passion. Talk from your intent of doing things with her and having fun about any random crap. ask her how she is, what she has been up too, what she is doing on the weekend... No fancy conversational skills required. In fact, they're somewhat of a mood-killer and time-waster. It is about you having fun so she has fun and you feeling sexual so she feels sexual around you.
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Yup. It's just about expressiveness and fun. Lower your standard for what's acceptable to talk about.
saw this on amazon. spiritual enlightenment? hmmLearningSlowly said:I'd recommend reading (or listening to) Eckhart Tolle's The Power of Now. It helped me a lot with conversation and relating to people. The key is letting it come naturally out of genuine interest in the person you're talking to. Really WANT to hear the things they have to say.
Norwegian, what's that blueprint movie u talk about in many of ur posts?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Example: (Girl is always in italics, you are bolded)
My day has been hella hectic, you wouldn't believe half the stuff I told ya.
Try me.
Well, first I scrambled in late to my first period class, then my phone rings. Turns out Tommy Hilfiger called me and asked me to be an underwear model.
Haha, you? An underwear model?
Of course babe, people call me the gun show, because I'm packing some heat. *Say all this $h!t with every intention that you know you're just busting her balls.
Hahaha....wowwwww
Haha, now that I've gotten you all thinking about my package...how was your day?
And just capitalize from there. She says something interesting or something you're genuinely interested in, take advantage of that situation and tell her what you think of that and ask her more of it. It's simple, but it takes a good mental game.
Be in the now, be confident, be funny, and just enjoy life. Don't take anything too seriously, and just have fun. When the person you're with sees you having fun, they absorb that aura and they in turn will have fun.
*Also, start out with some funny, superficial teasing/bantering like I exampled up top. Always starting with something more serious doesn't really set the tone, or open the girl up. When you get her laughing and more into the conversation, she will open herself up more, and THEN that's when you start trying to make a connection.
~B-Smooth
My day has been hella hectic, you wouldn't believe half the stuff I told ya.
Try me.
Well, first I scrambled in late to my first period class, then my phone rings. Turns out Tommy Hilfiger called me and asked me to be an underwear model.
Haha, you? An underwear model?
Of course babe, people call me the gun show, because I'm packing some heat. *Say all this $h!t with every intention that you know you're just busting her balls.
Hahaha....wowwwww
Haha, now that I've gotten you all thinking about my package...how was your day?
And just capitalize from there. She says something interesting or something you're genuinely interested in, take advantage of that situation and tell her what you think of that and ask her more of it. It's simple, but it takes a good mental game.
Be in the now, be confident, be funny, and just enjoy life. Don't take anything too seriously, and just have fun. When the person you're with sees you having fun, they absorb that aura and they in turn will have fun.
*Also, start out with some funny, superficial teasing/bantering like I exampled up top. Always starting with something more serious doesn't really set the tone, or open the girl up. When you get her laughing and more into the conversation, she will open herself up more, and THEN that's when you start trying to make a connection.
~B-Smooth
I believe you're talking about Tyler Durden's Blueprintasianbboy said:Norwegian, what's that blueprint movie u talk about in many of ur posts?
http://thepiratebay.org/torrent/409...s_(Tyler_Durden)_-_The_Blueprint_Decoded_DVDs
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