Making conversation on the spot

[TOneThousand]

Walking by a cute girl and she says "hey nice shirt". You say "thanks I got it at target". She laughs and says "target has the best shirts". You say something funny about target being really high quality.

That's the end of the discussion, which is not great. How do you guys turn that into a real interaction/make real conversation? Do you always have something generic to ask them or something canned that will lead to back and forth? Feels like having some sort of "can you believe this topic of the day" ready to go is the most obvious way to do it. Basically be ready to ask a question to anyone that they'll have to engage on.

 

[pipeman84]

Walking by a cute girl and she says "hey nice shirt".

The chances of this actually (her being cute and really a girl (early 20s) not a 45yrs old woman, not part of a dare, TikTok trend etc) happening to a guy in OP's age range (+38yrs old) must be on par with finding a suitcase full of $100 bills on the street.

You say "thanks I got it at target". She laughs and says "target has the best shirts". You say something funny about target being really high quality.
That's the end of the discussion, which is not great. How do you guys turn that into a real interaction/make real conversation?

I'd say something like 'so, who are you? what's your story?'. That's pretty open ended and can start discussion in all sorts of directions.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Walking by a cute girl and she says "hey nice shirt". You say "thanks I got it at target". She laughs and says "target has the best shirts". You say something funny about target being really high quality.

That's the end of the discussion, which is not great. How do you guys turn that into a real interaction/make real conversation? Do you always have something generic to ask them or something canned that will lead to back and forth? Feels like having some sort of "can you believe this topic of the day" ready to go is the most obvious way to do it. Basically be ready to ask a question to anyone that they'll have to engage on.

That sounds too good to be true.

When I was cold-approaching i had canned questions, yes.

I'd start with something funny, like "is that shirt from Target?"

Her: blah blah

Did you steal it? That looks like a price tag *prerends to look where a price tag would be*

Then I would go into the canned.

"What's your name?" "You look like a tourist" "oh wow"

You have to practice talking to people to know what to say. It can't come out of a book or forum

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Your demeanor means more than anything you could say.

Acting natural, with a hint of condescension works wonders.

Problem is, you actually have to practice to get good at this. And most people won't

Proper preparation prevents poor performance

 

[SW15]

Always start with asking an open ended question and see where the conversation goes. Keep asking her questions and see how willing she is to participate in a conversation.

 

[Divorced w 3]

How about thanks nice ass?

 

[Divorced w 3]

Or "I love the way your nipples poke through your tight white crop top"

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Looks like the woman who runs reception at my mma gym.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Maybe it is her. Tell her how much you enjoyed her photo.

I think you mean ask her an open ended question such as, so are you a working girl in your free time?

 

[TOneThousand]

@SW15 open ended questions, yes that's a good call man. Basically you should always have open ended questions ready. Thanks!

@AmsterdamAssassin good point about the comment not being about the shirt and really being about taste. I get what you mean about turning it back on her and talking about her taste

@Vending Machine Veteran thanks, yeah practicing some conversation with the right demeanor and some condescension is a good call

Obviously who doesn't like a good white crop top!

 

[BeExcellent]

Walking by a cute girl and she says "hey nice shirt". You say "thanks I got it at target". She laughs and says "target has the best shirts". You say something funny about target being really high quality.

That's the end of the discussion, which is not great. How do you guys turn that into a real interaction/make real conversation? Do you always have something generic to ask them or something canned that will lead to back and forth? Feels like having some sort of "can you believe this topic of the day" ready to go is the most obvious way to do it. Basically be ready to ask a question to anyone that they'll have to engage on.

Advice from the old lady:
Her: "Target has the best shirts..."
You: "Hmmm. They do. I like that you are a practical gal....."

Conversate from there.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

"Now here is a woman with good taste. In both clothes and men." Said with a smirk.

 

[jhonny9546]

There is this guy I know who is really hard to keep in a conversation with other men, but if you put him in a conversation with women, he keeps them interested.

I think each one of us has an inclination for this, and it can be both a pro and a con depending on the scenario you're in.

As I've said, other men I know really don't want to talk to this guy because it's like talking to an immature kid.

Sometimes you have innate abilities.

 

[BPH]

There is this guy I know who is really hard to keep in a conversation with other men, but if you put him in a conversation with women, he keeps them interested.

I think each one of us has an inclination for this, and it can be both a pro and a con depending on the scenario you're in.

As I've said, other men I know really don't want to talk to this guy because it's like talking to an immature kid.

Sometimes you have innate abilities.

Brother...how bored are you that you're reading and replying to 5-month-old threads.

 

[pipeman84]

Brother...how bored are you that you're reading and replying to 5-month-old threads.

Either that or he's thirsty for knowledge ... I spent perhaps 2 months between registering and making my first post here going through the whole Mature Man forum section.

 

[BaronOfHair]

How do you guys turn that into a real interaction/make real conversation?

Start by not walking out of the house wearing shirts you bought at Target