making contacts in the gymnasium

[flirty_intentions]

I have not been too comfortable starting a fresh conversation with a stranger, but once I get going I can easily turn it into a good relationship. I recently joined a new gym, and lots of guys come to work out there, i would just like to develop friendly relations with them, but as i said i am not too good at starting fresh conversations, any suggestions you guys would like to give to help build friendly relations with guys out there, and make my gym time more pleasurable?.

 

[gav]

if it's a big gym, it's hard. a LOT easier if it's small because you're almost forced into talking with the people there

wherever you're at, you can always ask guys if they'd spot you. then after they're done spotting you, you can spot them or whatever. ask how their workout's going. like you said, after initial contact it's easy.

spotting = watching over you so that when you come to failure, they can take the weight off you

 

[wolfie]

Ask for training advice. Most guys are always glad to give you tips on training. Then you ask them how long they've been training for. Then you discuss training. This is the AFC style of socialising in the gym, but it works

 

[Engetsu]

Try not to come on too strong at first and don't think this is like a date where you're questioning the girl and spitting what she says right back at her. Just be very laid back and relax.

 

[ScrewIt]

i go to a small gym...but that gym probably has hundreds of members already. every time i go i see about the same ppl more or less.

Dont really see a point in talkin to the guys there. other than the gym staff/manager im cool and talk with.

how do you hook up with a girl in the gym w/o seeming like you're hitting on her?? it's tough. i mean if u talk to her, it would seem pretty obvious. girls check me out as i walk by, but other than that i cant see where their eyes are staring, cuz i dont wear my glasses in the gym.

 

[flirty_intentions]

thanks gav, wolfie, engetsu, and screw it, some very valuable advice indeed.
screw it, how about noticing the girl while she is excercising to pick up some flaws, and then suggesting her on how she can improve ?

 

[EternalBachelor]

Oh no. Correcting a girl's form is the biggest mistake you could make and will certainly not endear her to you. She will find it patronising and will not be grateful.

A better method would be to compliment her and ask her about her training program etc. training goals.

 

[flirty_intentions]

hey but then that may not really help you become a respectable jerk......

 

[ChesterB]

How do you get to the gym and what do you do there?

I usually go by bus and do martial arts courses.
If you do similar things (i.e. courses with a set end time), you can talk to people after the course in the bus. To guys you can talk in the locker room as well.

 

[gav]

Originally posted by EternalBachelor
Oh no. Correcting a girl's form is the biggest mistake you could make and will certainly not endear her to you. She will find it patronising and will not be grateful.

A better method would be to compliment her and ask her about her training program etc. training goals.

i'd say correcting their form is all good. you get the opportunity for some easy kino, just like showin em how to play golf; you can tease em about how they look like they're stiff and need oiled up a bit

better method...compliment? well maybe one somewhere in the convo, but not a starter

there's a difference between making friends with guys at the gym and chatting a girl up.

making friends with guys: you talk about boring stuff that their friends would talk to them about...like their workout programme etc

chatting up a girl: you want to show her that you are more exciting than all the other chumps and nice guys around her. She can easily talk to her friends about her workout programme.

c&f - that's more like it...i'd help you out, but since i'm so good i'd need something in return first, like a massage

 

[flirty_intentions]

exactly my point gav....a repectable jerk when it comes to girls...by the way u put it really well..