"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Im thinking that only thing a man can do is giving her the emotional swing from a push pull strategy and intermittent rewards.
This is just my opinion @lamath but that is too much work and too much thinking.
Look at it in perspective. What made her think that it was alright for her to start that with you?

Staying in game mode is a futile effort. If it isn’t a natural condition of just being masculine by nature or your nature restored, it’s a loosing game.

I prefer to just look at them and observe. Say nothing. Comment nothing. Just look at them when they are harping.
At some point she will become uncomfortable. She may give it a harder push and say,
“Well aren’t you going to say something?”

At this point, that was a last ditch effort. Just say,
“Was there a question for me in all of that?”

I was once in a grocery store and I was watching a woman complain up and down to her boyfriend or husband or whatever he was. When he had finally dropped his head she faced forward and continued pushing her shopping cart. She had a slight Mona Lisa smile on her lips. She actually got pleasure from it. Since then I’ve seen many a woman with that look after barbecuing some wretched b@stard.
But I had to learn to see it.

Observe. Do not go introverted by her words. Just look at her. You will see everything you need to see.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So are you saying that empathy is a bad trait? Is that something that should be left to women? Should men simply be stoic and not emotionally relate to most situations? I've always tended to lean more stoic, happy at times sure and p*ssed sure but I strive to not get wrapped up in most emotional warefare. I've always found that getting wrapped up in emotional warefare, whether with men or women, more with women, leads to the exact thing I don't want, discontentment. I honestly think most of the emotional warefare crap is worse then if you knocked their a$$ out.
I’m saying that operating on empathy is a low order of existence If it prompts you to propitiate. The idea of instilling empathy, even in commercials and politics, is actually a manipulation to get you to give via guilt. A very low order of manipulation.

There is an exchange in this world. The most degraded souls do not exchange. There is entitlement and there is exchange. If you propitiate and give in to entitlement you actually degrade the person even more. You rewarded them for getting something for nothing.
 

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Do-gooders give because it’s about them. Their guilts or wrong doings in life etc.
it’s not about who they are giving to. Real help is taking a man and showing him how to use tools. But he has to reach for those tools. Degraded souls don’t reach for tools. He doesn’t have to. There’s do-gooders to extort from.

Let’s take the communist/socialist tack on this. Everyone has everything. But who is doing the work? Good men. Skilled men. Their production is extorted and seized for the benefit of all.
So you have all these good men, held down and enslaved supporting the masses.

Sound familiar? This is why communism/socialism IS feminism backed by government power.
I had a Marine buddy that was stationed in Moscow early in his career. He was a Marine embassy guard. This was before the fall of the Berlin Wall and the Warsaw Pact.
They didn’t have grocery stores in Moscow. You had to go to the market nearly every day to get food. When it ran out, there was no more. It was rationed.

A woman wants everything. She will only exchange her sex or quasi “loyalty” to someone she feels attracted to. The rest of the men are just producers to support her laziness. This is not a slam on women. They were empowered by society to act very badly.
 

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Do-gooders give because it’s about them. Their guilts or wrong doings in life etc.
it’s not about who they are giving to. Real help is taking a man and showing him how to use tools. But he has to reach for those tools. Degraded souls don’t reach for tools. He doesn’t have to. There’s do-gooders to extort from.

Let’s take the communist/socialist tack on this. Everyone has everything. But who is doing the work? Good men. Skilled men. Their production is extorted and seized for the benefit of all.
So you have all these good men, held down and enslaved supporting the masses.

Sound familiar? This is why communism/socialism IS feminism backed by government power.
I had a Marine buddy that was stationed in Moscow early in his career. He was a Marine embassy guard. This was before the fall of the Berlin Wall and the Warsaw Pact.
They didn’t have grocery stores in Moscow. You had to go to the market nearly every day to get food. When it ran out, there was no more. It was rationed.

A woman wants everything. She will only exchange her sex or quasi “loyalty” to someone she feels attracted to. The rest of the men are just producers to support her laziness. This is not a slam on women. They were empowered by society to act very badly.
I can only hope that the paradigm shifts soon, for the good of the west. If it doesn't we're doomed collectively. If we can't see the heartache, anguish, mental abuse and general downfall of society that we see in allowing draconian laws to handcuff and shackle western men into behaving like a good little woman, not sure we can recover from that.
 

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I can only hope that the paradigm shifts soon, for the good of the west. If it doesn't we're doomed collectively. If we can't see the heartache, anguish, mental abuse and general downfall of society that we see in allowing draconian laws to handcuff and shackle western men into behaving like a good little woman, not sure we can recover from that.
It’s a cultural shift that needs to take place. The most important thing a man can do is not participate in the degradation of his species. You must never contribute.

Even advertising is HIGHLY engineered. I do not watch commercials. I do not watch women hero shows. I never vote or support anything contrary to my world as a man.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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It’s a cultural shift that needs to take place. The most important thing a man can do is not participate in the degradation of his species. You must never contribute.

Even advertising is HIGHLY engineered. I do not watch commercials. I do not watch women hero shows. I never vote or support anything contrary to my world as a man.
The last marvel movie made me f*cking puke. The captain marvel sh*t, completely garbage just from the previews I saw. They literally have f*cking drag queen story time for kids in my area. Makes me physically ill
 

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Very good post, the real happiness for a woman is to see that her man have clear vision and mission in life and he is content executing his vision in life. she feel comfortable and like standing on solid ground. Many men sacrifice their need in order to please their women, but their women get confused and upset because they know their men arent living their fullest life.
 
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