"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Making a move on a friend

Eklipse

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Basically I'm really good friends with this girl and lately we have been pretty close and I think shes starting to like me. She never really put me into a friendzone she was a friends ex, so we never were really thinking about fooling around with eachother but now things have changed. How would I go about making the first move?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Eklipse said:
Basically I'm really good friends with this girl and lately we have been pretty close and I think shes starting to like me. She never really put me into a friendzone she was a friends ex, so we never were really thinking about fooling around with eachother but now things have changed. How would I go about making the first move?
Whoa dude. You're considering banging (having relations with) your friend's ex-girlfriend? How close are you to your friend?
 

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You've already establsihed that she's not a "friend", so just use the same ideas found on every thread on this board. since you already know her, most of the work is done for you. Just let it be known that you would like things to escalate, like inviting her out to lunch, unless you do so already. If not, that's a start, if so, then try and invite her over, to "watch a movie". If she likes you as you think she does, it'll be simple.
 

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Your_Royal_Flyness said:
Whoa dude. You're considering banging (having relations with) your friend's ex-girlfriend? How close are you to your friend?
I'm 99% sure he won't care. He cheated on her all the time then he broke up with her, haha honestly the guy can't stay with just one woman.
 

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For starters, please don't ask this chick out to lunch. You've already established that you're acquaintances, so you don't need to talk about anything over lunch. Neither do you need to pay for some chick who you haven't even become intimate with yet. What you need to start doing is vibing sexually with this chick. If that means talking to her a little dirtier than usual, then so be it. If it means getting her over to your place alone, do it.

The whole thing about this being your friend's ex may or may not be a big deal. I've banged my friend's ex's and my friends have banged one of mine. As long as you don't deny what you're doing, I don't see anything wrong with it.

Honestly I don't see the problem with messing around with this chick. If you were asking if dating this chick would be weird, then the answer is obviously yes. That'd take a little more thought.

For now, just make the move. You've already said she's shown interest. Show her you can reciprocate when she least expects it.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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