this type of thing seems to always happen to me. Everytime im with a girl and its up to me to make the first move, it just seems so awkward. for example, theres this senior girl from another school that i work with, and after work tonight we went cruisin around for a while, and eventually she called me out sayin that she didnt think i had the balls to make the move. (im a sophmore by the way). after a while we came to a parking lot with a perfect view over the town, and we started makin out for a while, but it just seemed really awkward goin into it. does anyone have some good advice on how to not make things so wierd?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
makin thew move without being so awkward
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Do it before she calls you on being too scared.
Damian
Senior Don Juan
Stop thinking so much. When you even get an inkling to phas-shift or make a move, DO IT. Don't hesitate, and don't stop. Remember, seize the opportunity or lose it.
-Damian
-Damian
Get a little buzzed alcoholicly (still able to drive). This will stop the thought that makes you afraid. After a while it will come naturally and you won't need it anymore.
If you made out with her, it means she likes you and that should give you the confidence you need anyway. Next time, surprize her with starting first. After awhile, you will become emotionally callosed and it won't feel awkward anymore. Just force yourself to do it and in time it will feel natural.
If you made out with her, it means she likes you and that should give you the confidence you need anyway. Next time, surprize her with starting first. After awhile, you will become emotionally callosed and it won't feel awkward anymore. Just force yourself to do it and in time it will feel natural.
Why does someone always suggest alcohol to bypass your inhibitions? If you can't do it without alcohol to begin with, what's gonna happen some day when you aren't buzzed and need to make the move? You won't be able to do it, you gain a dependence on alcohol, and before you know it, you're an alcoholic.
Damian has the right idea. Just do it. If she doesn't want to she will stop you, but odds are, unless you really misread the signs, she will be into it.
Damian has the right idea. Just do it. If she doesn't want to she will stop you, but odds are, unless you really misread the signs, she will be into it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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They suggest it because for inexperienced guys it can help them out. If you're a shy, inexperienced guy it will make you a little more confident to go in for it. Once you have one or two experiences of doing it with the aid of alcohol you should be able to do it without it. Unfortunately though, you're right, some people do take it too far.Originally posted by immrtlwun
Why does someone always suggest alcohol to bypass your inhibitions? If you can't do it without alcohol to begin with, what's gonna happen some day when you aren't buzzed and need to make the move? You won't be able to do it, you gain a dependence on alcohol, and before you know it, you're an alcoholic.
Damian has the right idea. Just do it. If she doesn't want to she will stop you, but odds are, unless you really misread the signs, she will be into it.
Ive been drinking or on x (not promoting it) just to get a lil buzz. I must say that i have had surprisingly good results, the mac just comes out of me.Yesterday, while being sober, me and my homeboys were walking through college appts and this fine thick mixed girl was by a door. she looked at us nice, and then decided to come out and stand outside to have a smoke. While i was walking away i just kicked myself and said **** it.. just do it and walked up to her, said blah blah and i got her number. So my 2 cents is that if done correctly drinking a bit just to get merry isnt bad and it can help the inner mack come out while being sober.
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