"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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There's a better way for this forum to serve people.

The questions on this forum seem to be coming from one of two people...

1. The person whose REAL reason for coming to this forum is to have someone else do their work for them. "Teach me, Train me, Transform me!" its easy to see that this person hasn't the desire the become a DJ/PUA yet.
I've been there.

2. The person whose REAL reason for coming to this forum is to have reasurrance. A lot of us have a weak father figure or none at all. We make decisions by having our big choices in life validated by other people. We think we're "bad" or some other such psychological BS so we justify ourselves through USING other people to validate us under the cover of "oh look at my pitiful self, please help a boy down on his luck." This behavior will be replaced by a better behavior, the sooner before your death the better.

Here's all I'm saying....

POST a sticky that says in CAPS...

ATTENTION YOU, YEAH YOU, YEAH I DON'T CARE WHO YOU THINK YOU ARE, YOU ARE HERE ON THIS FORUM FOR A REASON SO READ THIS.

The ultimate truth is, you already know what to do; you're just confusing yourself and asking questions to excuse yourself. Every question thats necessary for transforming you into a PUA/DJ is already available. Finding it, applying it and becoming it is simply a matter of DESIRE.

When you're at the beginning stages of PUA/DJ or any thing in life thats challenging, all that's going to pull you through is having a burning desire. There's a million obstacles to overcome, 90% of them are created by YOU. Only desire will pull you through the tough times.

Feel mad, Feel scared, Feel worried, Feel doubt, Feel hate, Feel every goddamn negative emotion there is along this journey and pull through with you're burning desire.

Don't have a burning desire? GET it, cause you can, cause its not scary to acquire it, and if you don't you'll regret it.


Now for those of you who aren't getting laid nearly as much as you'd like, including me, start a fcking bootcamp or at least a journal on this forum and post in other people's journals. Don't stop posting in your own journal though for any reason... and be honest dont keep up with the PUA Joneses ... dont compare yourself to other people and give up, learn from them... be honest with yourself so you can become that Katana and finally kick Jones in the balls. AND STOP ASKING FOR HELP cause it only serves to aggrivate keyboard jockey's disease. I don't care if its entertaining... if your sitting around finding your entertainment on a forum, then you're not where you want to be in life and as a man you have a responsibility to change that. This forum should not be permitting, or tolerating this crap. It's cool to write a journal and share funny stories but if your making sht up or posting weird questions just for entertainment then you need to change and this forum needs to be filtering your ass out. I dont care if this is the only place you get attention, that doesn't fulfill you and it distracts other people, its time to fcking change.

I imagine a forum with nothing but threads that say "My bootcamp" or "Jay's Bootcamp" or "Joneses fannybandit bootcamp." the information won't stop flowing... the few good ideas passed around will be where they should be... in the context of someone's life within a journal written by the person who experienced it.

it seriously pisses me off that I've found myself reading some of the garbage here

and more than that it pisses me off that its even possible to be so distracted in a place where the MEN come in need of support and guidance...

I'm not blaming anybody in particular... I just want to see this community become something greater. I want it to be a fcking factory that pumps out DJs and PUA efficiently and effectively by having people come out their ****ing shell and share their lives for better or worse so we can learn and teach eachother and put an end to this fake, distracted, illusion of a community. cause who wants that? Who really wants to play candy-land when we can be a real community?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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just out of simple curiousity, no offense taken, but why?

suggestions are not allowed?
 
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90% of the dudes on here don't have the behavioral traits or capacity to be a so-called "DJ" or "PUA" - their personality is not made for this "get as many HORS as possible" mindset!

Posters here just want to be heard, whether as a thread starter or as a responder!!!
 
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Don't make this a sticky.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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