"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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make this a sticky

driveon

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There's a better way for this forum to serve people.

The questions on this forum seem to be coming from one of two people...

1. The person whose REAL reason for coming to this forum is to have someone else do their work for them. "Teach me, Train me, Transform me!" its easy to see that this person hasn't the desire the become a DJ/PUA yet.
I've been there.

2. The person whose REAL reason for coming to this forum is to have reasurrance. A lot of us have a weak father figure or none at all. We make decisions by having our big choices in life validated by other people. We think we're "bad" or some other such psychological BS so we justify ourselves through USING other people to validate us under the cover of "oh look at my pitiful self, please help a boy down on his luck." This behavior will be replaced by a better behavior, the sooner before your death the better.

Here's all I'm saying....

POST a sticky that says in CAPS...

ATTENTION YOU, YEAH YOU, YEAH I DON'T CARE WHO YOU THINK YOU ARE, YOU ARE HERE ON THIS FORUM FOR A REASON SO READ THIS.

The ultimate truth is, you already know what to do; you're just confusing yourself and asking questions to excuse yourself. Every question thats necessary for transforming you into a PUA/DJ is already available. Finding it, applying it and becoming it is simply a matter of DESIRE.

When you're at the beginning stages of PUA/DJ or any thing in life thats challenging, all that's going to pull you through is having a burning desire. There's a million obstacles to overcome, 90% of them are created by YOU. Only desire will pull you through the tough times.

Feel mad, Feel scared, Feel worried, Feel doubt, Feel hate, Feel every goddamn negative emotion there is along this journey and pull through with you're burning desire.

Don't have a burning desire? GET it, cause you can, cause its not scary to acquire it, and if you don't you'll regret it.


Now for those of you who aren't getting laid nearly as much as you'd like, including me, start a fcking bootcamp or at least a journal on this forum and post in other people's journals. Don't stop posting in your own journal though for any reason... and be honest dont keep up with the PUA Joneses ... dont compare yourself to other people and give up, learn from them... be honest with yourself so you can become that Katana and finally kick Jones in the balls. AND STOP ASKING FOR HELP cause it only serves to aggrivate keyboard jockey's disease. I don't care if its entertaining... if your sitting around finding your entertainment on a forum, then you're not where you want to be in life and as a man you have a responsibility to change that. This forum should not be permitting, or tolerating this crap. It's cool to write a journal and share funny stories but if your making sht up or posting weird questions just for entertainment then you need to change and this forum needs to be filtering your ass out. I dont care if this is the only place you get attention, that doesn't fulfill you and it distracts other people, its time to fcking change.

I imagine a forum with nothing but threads that say "My bootcamp" or "Jay's Bootcamp" or "Joneses fannybandit bootcamp." the information won't stop flowing... the few good ideas passed around will be where they should be... in the context of someone's life within a journal written by the person who experienced it.

it seriously pisses me off that I've found myself reading some of the garbage here

and more than that it pisses me off that its even possible to be so distracted in a place where the MEN come in need of support and guidance...

I'm not blaming anybody in particular... I just want to see this community become something greater. I want it to be a fcking factory that pumps out DJs and PUA efficiently and effectively by having people come out their ****ing shell and share their lives for better or worse so we can learn and teach eachother and put an end to this fake, distracted, illusion of a community. cause who wants that? Who really wants to play candy-land when we can be a real community?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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just out of simple curiousity, no offense taken, but why?

suggestions are not allowed?
 
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90% of the dudes on here don't have the behavioral traits or capacity to be a so-called "DJ" or "PUA" - their personality is not made for this "get as many HORS as possible" mindset!

Posters here just want to be heard, whether as a thread starter or as a responder!!!
 
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Don't make this a sticky.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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