Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Fly By Night said:If you are doing these things with her, she has to be somewhat open to you or else she would shove you off her when you did it.
You should include more information on how she is shy, because on the other hand, it could be that her interest in you is low and she is using you to kill boredom...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
So yeah it sounds Flybynight was right. She wasn't shy you just weren't turning her on. And just like Young Jaun said a leader turns chicks on. A follower turns them off.zorg198 said:I Just finished talking with her and its looks like its was ended before it was started, she explained she never had a man who is mature and blah blah...
She said most of the guys she dated they were *******s and never call her and they say something and do something else , and i come and she is confused. i told her i will respect her decision whatever it will be.
she said thank you for not freaking out ...
Actually, none here. Read the above post And GhengisT's for your answer.zorg198 said:
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Every guy is supposed to treat her exactly the same way...no matter what? People have different personalities, look different, talk different, act different. You have to be able to adapt to them and what they offer, to see what you like and what you don't like.zorg198 said: