Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Fly By Night said:If you are doing these things with her, she has to be somewhat open to you or else she would shove you off her when you did it.
You should include more information on how she is shy, because on the other hand, it could be that her interest in you is low and she is using you to kill boredom...
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
So yeah it sounds Flybynight was right. She wasn't shy you just weren't turning her on. And just like Young Jaun said a leader turns chicks on. A follower turns them off.zorg198 said:I Just finished talking with her and its looks like its was ended before it was started, she explained she never had a man who is mature and blah blah...
She said most of the guys she dated they were *******s and never call her and they say something and do something else , and i come and she is confused. i told her i will respect her decision whatever it will be.
she said thank you for not freaking out ...
Actually, none here. Read the above post And GhengisT's for your answer.zorg198 said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Every guy is supposed to treat her exactly the same way...no matter what? People have different personalities, look different, talk different, act different. You have to be able to adapt to them and what they offer, to see what you like and what you don't like.zorg198 said: