"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I like a women that I have been friends with for over two years. She has had a boyfriend for all this time. They have recently decided to just be friends. In the past she has pointed out single women at the gym or given me advice on women I am dating.

Any advice on how I can go from friend to dating her?


I have known her two years but in the past 6 months we have gotten to be friends at the gym.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Julius_Seizeher

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The only way you could possibly spark a genuine interest within this girl, is for her to see you getting women hotter than her.

Even then, with all these years of "friendship" behind you, you are still pissing up a rope to hope anything romantic will happen with this one.

Your best bet is to forget about her, but not with the hope that she will "remember" you. Only if you may genuinely move on from your infatuation with this one, could you possibly spark her interest.
 

the_great_gaia

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This is gonna be tough.

The number one thing that women go off of to guide them in the right direction are their feelings. In your case, if you were to tell her that you want to be with her, she would probably feel "weird", and it could cost you the friendship. But I also believe that anything is possible.

From being her friend for 2 years, she knew women you dated, you know her ex-boyfriend, she's pointed out single women to you, and even gave you advice on the women you dated which makes this situation close to MISSION IMPOSSIBLE. What you probably should realize is that when you're close friends with a female, she views you the same as she would a female friend. Basically, you're one of her "girlfriends", but you have a peni.s and no breasts. In her mind, this makes it highly unlikely that she would date you or find you sexually attractive. But this doesn't apply to EVERY female, just most.

In my opinion, in order to change all of this; her being your friend (of 2 years) to being something more... the work you put in may take just as long as it has being her friend. You have to switch the momentum somehow, get out of the friendzone (which is probably equal to giving people in hell ice-water), and from there, initiate attraction (which you can read about in many directories in the forums), and try your luck. But it may cost you the friendship in the end. My best advice would be.. find other chics, because I also get the feeling that if you were to get this chic, you would only have interest in her, and no one else, and it wouldn't last long.
 

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Reinvent yourself.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Another PU guru said I should raise up my energy level around her and make comments like hmmm I haven't noticed that before and then change the subject. Any tips on how I should act around her?
 

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become somewhat of a jerk and create a distance..be less available to her..when ure with her be slighly ****y and aloof..if she feels tension and is attracted she'll respond otherwise let her go..also by doing this u might risk ruining the 2 year friendship tht uve with her
 

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go out with her and have a few ****tails.

at the end of it, make a move.

she will like it or not....then you can go from there.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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