"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Ok guys i'm new here. I've been extremely successful with women in my life, I feel like I am a natural (not a perfect one but i'm decent). My problem is that despite my success I still have a lot of approach anxiety. I have never asked a girl out and been denied, i've dated some quality women, and i feel like I have a lot to offer. Yet something holds me back from most women. Any ideas on how to unearth this demon? Thank you guys, I look forward to learning from you guys.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Get ready for a rude awakening.

If you play the game, you will sometimes get hurt. Just the way it works. If human beings were entirely predictable, 100% of the time what fun would any of this be? We'd just have a little computer directing us and within a generation no one would even bat an eye about getting the freshest smelling poon of the summer anymore.

Perfectionist thinking is definitely not helpful here. The more one thinks he should always know the perfect thing to say, should be able to "control" the actions/reactions of other people, and so on the more anxiety ridden he becomes.
 
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Approach more until youre desensitized.
 
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