"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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major sucess yet still have approach anxiety

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Ok guys i'm new here. I've been extremely successful with women in my life, I feel like I am a natural (not a perfect one but i'm decent). My problem is that despite my success I still have a lot of approach anxiety. I have never asked a girl out and been denied, i've dated some quality women, and i feel like I have a lot to offer. Yet something holds me back from most women. Any ideas on how to unearth this demon? Thank you guys, I look forward to learning from you guys.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Get ready for a rude awakening.

If you play the game, you will sometimes get hurt. Just the way it works. If human beings were entirely predictable, 100% of the time what fun would any of this be? We'd just have a little computer directing us and within a generation no one would even bat an eye about getting the freshest smelling poon of the summer anymore.

Perfectionist thinking is definitely not helpful here. The more one thinks he should always know the perfect thing to say, should be able to "control" the actions/reactions of other people, and so on the more anxiety ridden he becomes.
 
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Approach more until youre desensitized.
 
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