"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Maintaining that 100% Confident state ??

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Hi, this website/forums and the dj bible has helped me a lot. I've actually put a lot of the stuff from the bible into practice since a few months and im doin kinda well with girls (not just girls... actually my whole life has improved). But still there are a few days where i feel kinda down and less confident. The most minor stuff can mind**** me and make me feel insecure me on such days. How do i keep my confidence level up all the time? i want to achieve the state where my confidence is completely natural... not even a bit of it should be faked or forced.
Looking forward for some advice from the real don juans out here.
Thanks in advance
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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have you ever notice that if youre doing something that youre good at you feel more confident than other people who are not. Thats what you got to do, become great at something and your confidence will flow from there.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I sometimes had the same problem. My game would go from day to day. But it was mostly when I was tired. My game takes a lot out of me if I go all out. So it was hard for me to game chicks in last period cuz Id been going all day and by that point I was like "**** it..." Then you try to force it and it ain't there.

The secret is to CREATE those expectations. Stop yourself from being able to say "**** it". Go in guns ablazin', all the time.
 
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It's called.....LIFE. Seriously...
 
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Originally posted by Noob
thanks for making this thread because this is exactly what i need to find out right now... some times i have these AMAZING days where i am as ****y and confident person as i possibly can be..:woo: ..and other days especially in the morning time i feel down in the dumps :down:

its kinda annoying cuz 1 day your making people laugh and then they start to have an expectation of you of being that guy that makes you laugh and stuff and some times its hard to live up to every bodies expectations the day after.

so how do i correct this problem or should i just leave things how they are becaue no one is perfect and people should know that people can have bad days....

some one please reply with ggood advise
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I have the same problem and have had it for about a year. I was a funny person before I even became a DJ. Whenever I would make a hillarious joke all of the people around me would laugh and especially my pals. I don't really know how I fixed my problem but if I felt like not entertaining, I would just go away. Like if it was in class I would move and hang out with the people who didn't really know me. Like during lunch I would take a break and go st at a different table or something.

I mean who's going to say "Come back, you aren't done entertaining me slave." I like to get to know new people ocassionly and during these states of not wanting to hang out with my pals, I would hang out with someone else.

Another solution is to hang out with someone even more of a socializer. It might be a little hard to find someone that is more of a socializer then yourself, but I found someone that was quite a socializer and when ever I would want to lose everyone in my group, I would just go hang out with him.

Good luck.
 
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Yep, I'd definately start hanging around with different crowds, thats what I started to do to build confidence. Also not being afraid of making a fool out of yourself helps out alot. I did this up by taking on some of the dares my mates make that require a rather large set of balls to do. Now this might not be the best idea but it was alot of fun for us and gained me quiet a bit of respect amoung my mates.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I seem to recall fond memorys of a board game...
 
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go do somthing that would get your mind out of thinkin....like go play golf or somthing. What your goin through never hapen 2me dunno y maybe im just always busy doin 1 thing or another anyhow in my opinion music express peoples emotion maybe listen 2 some music might inspire 2 u get ur game back up n goin....
 
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Originally posted by AB500
Yep, I'd definately start hanging around with different crowds, thats what I started to do to build confidence. Also not being afraid of making a fool out of yourself helps out alot. I did this up by taking on some of the dares my mates make that require a rather large set of balls to do. Now this might not be the best idea but it was alot of fun for us and gained me quiet a bit of respect amoung my mates.
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I think wat the original post is tryin to say is that, what do you do when your not feeling at the top of your game.

How can he go up and start "hanging" around other people when the problem is actually meeting new people.

What can you do to get yourself at the top of your game again.!?!?
 
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its simple (okay maybe not lol)

but the official way i got my confidence is the phrase "whatever, man"

some chick rejects you and gets u down? "whatever" some guy makes u look a fool in front of everyone "whatever" you dont need them! who gives a fvck what they say.

yeahhh. i'm gonna go run for a poltical office now! lol
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Moments are dominated by moods....

If your never felt unconfident, then how would you define the confident moments as "confident"? All you can do is your best.

There is no happiness without suffering.
 
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