"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Maintaining a connection... help me out please!

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No-one seemed to want to read the original post so I'm going to give you the "Coles Notes" version because I need some answers. Here's my initial post if anyone wants the whole story:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=149865

Short version:

- I'm from Ontario. A couple weeks ago I went out East for about a week for a competition.
- I hooked up with an HB 9 there (where HB 10s don't exist in my book), spent two nights with her, talked, had sex. She was one of the most beautiful AND nicest/easiest to talk to girls I've ever met. I would definitely date her without hesitation if we lived close to each other. Total babe and totally cool on top of it! :up:
- She comes to Ontario from time to time because she has family here. Likewise, I have this competition out East yearly.
- Added her on Facebook. Haven't messaged her since I last saw her.

Questions:

How do I maintain this connection using Facebook so I can see her when I get the opportunity?
- How do I make sure that I hook up with this girl again when she comes to Ontario, or when I go out East?
- Do I ignore her for long periods (months) at a time?
- Do I message her every so often? If so, HOW OFTEN?
- What exactly should I message her about? What should I ask her/tell her?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yes you can. Get a router that is wireless but also has a few ethernet connections and you can leave your desktop linked via ethernet and then configure the wireless for any other computer that has a wireless card.
 
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Seriously dudes, someone's got to have some advice, not that hard a question is it?
 
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Tee

I assume you have some decent conversation with her so use it to keep contact with her.

ex: hey there is your favourite band in town, I was thinking about u and if you in town we can go together..

Her hobbies, food, movies, sport etc...just touch base with her once a while bu using her interest or common interest between both if u as a lifeline.

Keep it light with touch of comedy will go a long way.
 
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Sounds like the right idea... I'm wondering how often I should make contact though, seeing as we're half a country away...


true romance said:
Tee

I assume you have some decent conversation with her so use it to keep contact with her.

ex: hey there is your favourite band in town, I was thinking about u and if you in town we can go together..

Her hobbies, food, movies, sport etc...just touch base with her once a while bu using her interest or common interest between both if u as a lifeline.

Keep it light with touch of comedy will go a long way.
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Yes you can may,Get a router that is wireless but also has a few ethernet connections and you can leave your desktop linked via ethernet and then configure the wireless for any other computer that has a wireless card.



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