"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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maintaing attraction without presence (question)

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attraction without presence?

Hey everyone.
I've been in a relationship with a real catch (9+, killer personality) for a couple of months. She's practically in love with me, but not in the creepy, stalker sort of way! she's off to Italy for a year, and we live in New Zealand. i'm wondering if it is at all possible to maintain attraction, without me being there physically. obviously we'll be emailing etc, but is there a way i can go about keeping her interested?
i wouldn't mind starting something up again when she comes home.
some responses would be greatly appreciated!
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ahh...an option i had not thought of! thanks! haha.
but seriously ideas from knowledgeable djuaners?
 

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Well, the best thing to do is move on with your life (as I'm sure you know) and when you talk with her, be C&F and every now and then say something shockingly romantic to her.

If she meets a guy there and stops calling you for a little while..that's actually good...because you're not a friend, your a romantic interest.

Here's an example of a text I sent a girl that I'm kind of in the same situation with.

She wrote "I'm so glad monday is over!"

I wrote "Don't look now, you sound like a corperate automaton. But you are still as beautiful as a day in spring."

Guess who she called when she was drunk that night. lol..then I just laugh it off and make fun of her.
 

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yeah man, sounds good.
but i (stupidly) forgot to mention that she has been a very good friend for like 3 years before we decided to go out. it wasnt a LJBF thing, we were interested in other people. then she tells me she's liked me for ages so i think 'why not give it a try?' so we did, and it's been going real good.
what i mean is, when she comes back, we are still going to be good friends, but i wouldn't mind being where we are now.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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