"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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made out with some random girl last night...help

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So, I made out with some random last night, pretended like I was actually interested in her, and got her number. She was a really nice girl and all, but I am not interested in doing anything more with her. Unfortunately, she thinks I'm going to call her and hang out with her today (I was kinda drunk when this whole ordeal occurred).

How do I put her down gently? I mean, I could just not call her back, but isn't that kind of a **** move?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I mean, I could definitely **** her, but she's not that attractive and I don't want my first lay to be with a girl I'm not into. Kissing her felt like kissing my hand or some ****. She wanted to take me home last night, LOL.

Decisions, decisions...
 
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"Just be a man and don't call her"
 
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This chick is on the phone with one of her girlfriends right now, and this is the summary of the convo: "I made out with some guy last night, and I think I gave him my number. I almost went home with him! Just call my drunky-makeout-face lol. God, I hope he doesnt call! Dont they understand we're just having fun? I swear, you make out with some guy in the bar, and they like, think you're interested in them or something! What a fvcking creepazoid! Oh, well, if he calls, I'll just pretend I like him, and tell him I'll call him back, or just not show up for whatever date he plans. He'll take the hint eventually. Why should I make myself uncomfortable by explaining to him that I'm not interested? I'll just blow him off. Well, OI am kind of broke, and I've been craving sushi. Maybe I'll let him buy me sushi next week. I have a couple hours free on wednesday after my date with that drummer with the big c0ck. I'll be REALLY hungry after leaving his house! lol. Then I can use my 'tiredness' as an excuse to leave as soon as I'm done. Yeah, thats what I'll do."

But, you know, good for you for worrying about her feelings.:rolleyes:
 
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This chick is on the phone with one of her girlfriends right now, and this is the summary of the convo: "I made out with some guy last night, and I think I gave him my number. I almost went home with him! Just call my drunky-makeout-face lol. God, I hope he doesnt call! Dont they understand we're just having fun? I swear, you make out with some guy in the bar, and they like, think you're interested in them or something! What a fvcking creepazoid! Oh, well, if he calls, I'll just pretend I like him, and tell him I'll call him back, or just not show up for whatever date he plans. He'll take the hint eventually. Why should I make myself uncomfortable by explaining to him that I'm not interested? I'll just blow him off. Well, OI am kind of broke, and I've been craving sushi. Maybe I'll let him buy me sushi next week. I have a couple hours free on wednesday after my date with that drummer with the big c0ck. I'll be REALLY hungry after leaving his house! lol. Then I can use my 'tiredness' as an excuse to leave as soon as I'm done. Yeah, thats what I'll do."

But, you know, good for you for worrying about her feelings.
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THIS. IS. GOLD :D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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horaholic said:
This chick is on the phone with one of her girlfriends right now, and this is the summary of the convo: "I made out with some guy last night, and I think I gave him my number. I almost went home with him! Just call my drunky-makeout-face lol. God, I hope he doesnt call! Dont they understand we're just having fun? I swear, you make out with some guy in the bar, and they like, think you're interested in them or something! What a fvcking creepazoid! Oh, well, if he calls, I'll just pretend I like him, and tell him I'll call him back, or just not show up for whatever date he plans. He'll take the hint eventually. Why should I make myself uncomfortable by explaining to him that I'm not interested? I'll just blow him off. Well, OI am kind of broke, and I've been craving sushi. Maybe I'll let him buy me sushi next week. I have a couple hours free on wednesday after my date with that drummer with the big c0ck. I'll be REALLY hungry after leaving his house! lol. Then I can use my 'tiredness' as an excuse to leave as soon as I'm done. Yeah, thats what I'll do."

But, you know, good for you for worrying about her feelings.:rolleyes:
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Haha, nice, man.

I won't be calling her. Come to think of it, this is a dumb thread.

As something only partially related...

how fast do you guys generally escalate in a club, bar, or party situation? the only reason i started making out with this girl is because i ran out of **** to say, knew it would get awkward plenty fast if I kept the current **** going, and earlier, my wing was telling me it's always good to get things going in a physical direction as soon as you can, so i wanted to take his advice (dude has banged 40+ girls so it's probably good advice).

basically, it seems like if a girl is going to let you put your arm around her (maybe she leaned in a bit, I dunno), you should probably be kissing her. **** man, so many mother****ing opportunities blown in my life. :cry: i mean, there was one right there at that party that obviously wanted me to hurry it up but i never did.

if i didn't have a ton of reports to finish tonight, i'd be in the ****ing club going into terminator mode right now. ahhhh
 
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Some gurus advise against making out with the girl in the bar. They claim it gives buyers remorse. What you want to do is keep it to a minimum. Tease her with what will come later. Turn her on with a kiss or two, then get her outta there!
 
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For me, there are three types of women... Ones I will date, ones I will just make out with, and ones I don't want.

I've made out with tons of random women at the bar with no intension of taking things further. The worst thing you can do with these women is ask for their number. It gives them the false hope for more. If she offers her number, just politely take it and make NO promises of when you're going to call her.

There were tons of nameless women I've screwed around with, and they were just as happy to have no commitment as I was. Just keep is as what it is - fun.
 
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I ran into two girls I've previously made out with in the bar last night. It was like it never happened.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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