"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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made out with friend at party; now I want more

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we went to a club at the big city close to us, got into the VIP, started doing body shots off one girl/friend Asian HB8.5, then under the cheering of the other girls (and guy) made out with her.

Now this girl has always given me signs of interest (at least since we started school in august), but i just thought it was too messy to sleep with her. She is quite a party girl and would probably be up for a casual thing, so now I do want to do her. I have the impression that I always had some sort of upper hand just by holding back, and I want to keep this advantage.

Now after we made out, she comes up to me and asks if we're still friends, and I answer "yes, but can we still make out sometime?" and she says "sure!". I couldn't do more that night because of all the people who were with us

Any ideas how I could escalate this without losing my edge ? Direct suggestion? ask her out? etc.. ? ideas welcome!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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salvosom said:
Now after we made out, she comes up to me and asks if we're still friends, and I answer "yes, but can we still make out sometime?" and she says "sure!". I couldn't do more that night because of all the people who were with us

Any ideas how I could escalate this without losing my edge ? Direct suggestion? ask her out? etc.. ? ideas welcome!
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That, my friend, was NOT edgy.
 
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salvosom said:
we went to a club at the big city close to us, got into the VIP, started doing body shots off one girl/friend Asian HB8.5, then under the cheering of the other girls (and guy) made out with her.

Now this girl has always given me signs of interest (at least since we started school in august), but i just thought it was too messy to sleep with her. She is quite a party girl and would probably be up for a casual thing, so now I do want to do her. I have the impression that I always had some sort of upper hand just by holding back, and I want to keep this advantage.

Now after we made out, she comes up to me and asks if we're still friends, and I answer "yes, but can we still make out sometime?" and she says "sure!". I couldn't do more that night because of all the people who were with us

Any ideas how I could escalate this without losing my edge ? Direct suggestion? ask her out? etc.. ? ideas welcome!
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Are you really 26?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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