"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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mackin' @ work?

ValleyDJing

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damn it...thought hit me today. I can dj all day and night on girls I know, but I flat out suck at cold approaches. Like, hott girls come through my work all day with me but I don't think fast enough you know? They're gone before I can think of something good to start with. And don't just tell me talk about the weather or some generic sh*t like that...that ain't my style. I ain't generic. Plus, theres tons of people around and well, we aren't exactly allowed to hit on customers, hehe! What should I do? Well, maybe this thread don't make since, but fu<k it...i'm posting it anyways. Haha
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Zerotwoonenine

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go to the hall of fame, there are really good topics around openers etc.
 

WesCottII

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Well, what do you work as?

I usually start with "woah, you look lost. Something I can help you with?"
 

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i bag groceries. and can i help you find something usually only goes so far...u know what i mean? no u probably don't. what do u work as?
 

WesCottII

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I work in a gym. Picking up's pretty easy for me.

Try comenting on the stuff they've bought. "oh, vagilube? Got a problem down below?" - that sort of thing.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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lol the Vagilube comment probably isn't something you want to start off with lol

I work at Chipotle, barely get much time to talk to a girl if they're coming through, but I generally get a chance to talk to them and poke fun at what theyre getting, or offer my 2 cents in there.

Your best bet is use visual clues such as clothes, accessories, style, hair, etc. to find something that it seems like they're interested in, and start from there.
 

ValleyDJing

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making fun of her vagilube? haha! that would be hella funny but i'd get my ass fired on the spot for something like that! haha...i get what you guys mean tho...thanks
 
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