"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

Read more...

Mackin' while wasted --

BustedKnucks

Don Juan
Joined
Jan 7, 2004
Messages
183
Reaction score
1
Location
Long Island
So you have decent game while sober. You are confident in your cold approaches at the mall, restaurants, and other non-alcoholic social functions.

But when you get wasted, your game slips.

This is because in a different state of mind, your skills and thought processes don't function or execute in the same way. In order to become a succesful drunken DJ, you need to practice your approaches while wasted.

You may get shut down at first, and frequently, but once you learn what works for you when sober is different from what works when drunk, you'll find new success.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

musclyjerk

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Nov 29, 2006
Messages
348
Reaction score
4
Women are far more receptive to you when you're drunk - as long as you don't look like a potential rapist - if you're acting/looking jolly and can still walk then it's cool.

I find women approach me a lot more when I'm drunk as they know my guard is down thus they think me rejecting them is an unlikely event.

The Muscly Jerk
 

asdfghjkl

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jun 29, 2006
Messages
202
Reaction score
2
musclyjerk said:
Women are far more receptive to you when you're drunk - as long as you don't look like a potential rapist - if you're acting/looking jolly and can still walk then it's cool.

I find women approach me a lot more when I'm drunk as they know my guard is down thus they think me rejecting them is an unlikely event.

The Muscly Jerk

I think i agree with him, although i only know from experience from house parties, considering im not old enough for bars. :(

Just dont get sloshed...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Flabbergasped?

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 14, 2005
Messages
539
Reaction score
12
Drink just enough to be happy.

I talk too much when I'm drunk, so my game really slips cus I ramble and annoy the chick, convey too much interest, etc. When I've had enough to lose inhibitions though, I'm a machine =)

Btw, had some Everclear for new years. Don't ever drink it, for your safety.
 

oakraiderz2

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 26, 2002
Messages
4,626
Reaction score
28
Age
40
Location
Colorado
Last night i was drunk and i was handling things like clock work. I was pretty touch feely, worked like a charm. Other guys trying to mack also helped me out as well. Nothing like a g unit wanna be speaking like he just got of a boat from some other country. When im drunk...my words flow like theyve been touched from god.
 

ryannath

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 10, 2006
Messages
715
Reaction score
3
When I'm drunk I have alot more game also. And, things just come natural then because I'm not really thinking of what to say.
 

Jay Jay

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 3, 2006
Messages
630
Reaction score
15
I have a few things to say on this topic.

Rule 1: You must always be less wasted then your target. (except for cases of rule 4.e)

Rule 2: A few drinks helps you relax and have fun but if you are out mackin you should not have more than 2 or 3 unless you are doing really well with a chick and you are drinking (or whatever else) together.

Rule 3: Girls that wanna shag you but won't for politcal reasons (workmates, you are her friends ex, "it will ruin the friendship", you have broken up, she's got another guy on the scene etc etc) will give it up when wasted.

Rule 4: Illicit party drugs attract (the worst type) of women.
Some points to remember.
a. Coccaine feels good for the ladies on the **** (and make you act like an arrogant wanker)
b. Ecstacy can either make you impotent (likely) or (think you are) a sex god.
c. Any chick who shoots up should be avoided like the plague.
d. Excercise caution if on LSD (I once got engaged whilst having sex on acid!).
e. Girls go crazy about bad boys, but once you have them will annoy **** out of you trying to reform you and will most likely dump you for being a substance abuser OR pick up all you bad habits and start drinking/ smoking/ snorting half your ****.

Rule 5: Its a really bad idea to go out macking on weed (unless going to a Bob Marley tribute show; in those instances take many big fat spliffs) but "lets finish of the night with a joint" is an awesome excuse to get a girl to come home with you.

Rule 6: If you go out and stay sober you look way better than the other guys, you are wittier, have greater clarity and you can offer to drive all the drunk ladies home like the gentleman you are.

Rule 7: Drugs and alcohol will mess up your game more than anything else. They undermine your health, your sexual performance, your money, your social skills, your sense of reality, your looks and have the potential to ruin your life.

JJ
 

art of

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 9, 2006
Messages
65
Reaction score
0
I managed to hold my own drunk. Honestly made things a lot easier for me. Only problem I have now is figuring out if the good chemistry was just a one time deal because of the alc or if I have a shot for the long run. Anyone else had this problem?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

ryannath

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 10, 2006
Messages
715
Reaction score
3
jay, what does the word that got censored say? Coccaine feels good for the ladies on the ****?
 

Jay Jay

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 3, 2006
Messages
630
Reaction score
15
ryannath said:
jay, what does the word that got censored say? Coccaine feels good for the ladies on the ****?
c.l.i.t. (****oris)

Not that I endorse that kind of thing....
 
Top