"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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LTR - What is better not to ask/know?

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As we get into our second, third round of romance we all realize we have a past. That girl that is so amazing in bed? Yeah she has experience from somewhere. Heck for that matter so do I....

But we all have a past, so what do we overlook/ignore, don't ask/don't tell?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Some things are better left unsaid... she may have had a bad past, but may be a different person now... Live in the moment, yet plan for the future.
 

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Some things are better left unsaid... she may have had a bad past, but may be a different person now... Live in the moment, yet plan for the future.
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From experiences that I've seen and encountered. People stay the same. In the words of the late great Dennis Green "they were who we thought they were"
 

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If that's the case... give it time and the red flags will show. But, personally, I've changed so many times in my life, and I'm not the person I was a few years ago. Change does happen, but it's mostly supernatural. Unspiritual types tend to stagnate. If the man upstairs is with you, you're on your way to perfection. It's painfully humbling at times, but it's worth it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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As billtx49 said, women will tell you about themselves if you just listen. It's like they are compelled to do it. Nowadays, many of them almost seem to take pride in some of the things they did in the past that arent necessarily something to brag about.

And with all due respect to wifehunter's comment: "she may have had a bad past, but may be a different person now". I pity the man who follows this advice.
In almost all cases, you are setting yourself up for pain and anguish.

A must read from Rollo: https://therationalmale.com/2013/12/03/saving-the-best/

-Augustus-
 

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If you can handle it, knowing as much as possible is best. Information about a potential mate is crucial in understanding who they are, and how your relationship most likely will progress with the person.

Dont be naive, and just say "the past is in the past" and ignore anything she has done up to the point you met her. A person's past makes who they are, so you better pay attention to it.

I can completely understand if a guy doesn't want to know about a girls sexual past, if it works for them then they can go ahead with it. But from my experiences so far, a girls sexual past has effects on your relationship. Consider things like traumatic experiences, they cause barriers between the two of you if they are unresolved; a very high partner count can significantly reduce the effects of pair bonding; and a history of nothing but short term flings indicate a tendency to avoid long term commitment.

One more thing, don't just wait until the red flags are blatantly screaming right in front of your face. At that point you will be too attached to leave so easily. Be on the lookout from the beginning so you can spot them sooner. This way, you will save a ton of time, money, and heartache from being with a woman who ultimately was never good for you to begin with.
 
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How do you ask questions in a roundabout manner?

Say for partners had, ons, bisexual or the like?
 

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Agree with Brad here---you want to be as informed as you possibly can in an LTR. "Not caring" about past indiscretions is the equivalent of burying your head in the sand thinking it will protect you from storms.

Avoid asking directly. Womem will spill the beans with remarkable honesty if you get to the heart of any female's life--her relationships and her feelings.

People generally dont change much unless there is a major life-changing event or they have sufficient painful motivation to change some habit or behavior. Always assume an adult woman is who she is once she has let her hair down, so to speak.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Agree with Brad here---you want to be as informed as you possibly can in an LTR. "Not caring" about past indiscretions is the equivalent of burying your head in the sand thinking it will protect you from storms.

Avoid asking directly. Womem will spill the beans with remarkable honesty if you get to the heart of any female's life--her relationships and her feelings.
That's right, if you listen to what they say, are able to put 1 and 1 together, you will eventually know what's up with her.
 

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From experiences that I've seen and encountered. People stay the same. In the words of the late great Dennis Green "they were who we thought they were"
I think you meant... "they weren't".
 

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No, no matter how much you think a woman has changed in the back of your head you know who they really are. That little voice in your head that says she never changed is right. If she cheated on people in the past then guess what? There is a possible chance that it will happen again.
 

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Agree with Brad here---you want to be as informed as you possibly can in an LTR. "Not caring" about past indiscretions is the equivalent of burying your head in the sand thinking it will protect you from storms.

Avoid asking directly. Womem will spill the beans with remarkable honesty if you get to the heart of any female's life--her relationships and her feelings.

People generally dont change much unless there is a major life-changing event or they have sufficient painful motivation to change some habit or behavior. Always assume an adult woman is who she is once she has let her hair down, so to speak.
Agreed with both. Women love talking about relationships. Most guys don't want to ask because it's a risqué subject. I tend to grill them on the subject. Take for instance like everyone says put one and one together.

When was your last relationship? What happened? He dumped her, he cheated, she liked to party.

1. Why'd he dump her? Not good enough girlfriend? How many times has she been dumped?
2. He cheated? Not good enough, crazy?
3. She's a partier and likes to drink at the bars all the time. Good long term material?

All of that should be clicking
 

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There's another good reason to go for the 18,19,20 year olds... minimal relationship experience.

Not much to talk about on that front. Maybe, one or two guys in her past.

If I have to know, I'd like it to be over quickly.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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As we get into our second, third round of romance we all realize we have a past. That girl that is so amazing in bed? Yeah she has experience from somewhere. Heck for that matter so do I....

But we all have a past, so what do we overlook/ignore, don't ask/don't tell?
It's better to know versus everyone around you knows but you.
 

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As we get into our second, third round of romance we all realize we have a past. That girl that is so amazing in bed? Yeah she has experience from somewhere. Heck for that matter so do I....

But we all have a past, so what do we overlook/ignore, don't ask/don't tell?
I agree with the other posters who said we shouldn't ignore anything and try to find out as much as possible, as soon as possible.
Does this mean we should also disclose everything to her? No, and for 2 good reasons (feel free to add to this line of thought if you have more ideas): 1. the man is the leader in the relationship, therefore he should know everything about the underling.
2. when a woman gets pregnant she knows 100% the baby is hers whereas the man can't know for sure unless he thoroughly vetted her.
 

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All I can say is

“What the ears don’t hear the heart doesn’t care”
“What the eyes don’t see the heart believes foolishly”.

Just make sure you’re the bigger “wh-ore” and you should be fine as long as you’re not insecure.
 

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I'd day the past is the past for the both of you. Not really anyone's business. Unless your seeing warnings
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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