"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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LTR Tip: Boredom

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I am well over a year into a LTR and after a night where she came (pun intended) I got bored. I realized we have been doing the same routine for some time. I am sure some would say "get a new chick" but I believe the correct thing to do if you have a good chick is to bring in some excitement. After a couple action dates my interest was back.

It is always good pay attention to your feelings because they are there for a reason. In my case it reminded me to not forget about the basics of pickup (creating attraction).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Are you sharing or is there a question somewhere in your post?
 
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This happens in ever relationship. When it happens can vary, but they all hit that boredom, "feels like we're in a rut" stage. The moment you even begin to feel that, change things up. Stop being so available, hang out with friends, stuff like that. Give her a chance to miss you a bit. That alone can really swing things around and make the relationship exciting for her again. This is important because if you feel that way, she probably does as well, and probably did sooner. By withdrawing your stream of affection and validation it creates an emotional vacuum and gives her a chance to crave you again. It's basically a measured "absence makes the heart grow fonder" while at the same time giving you a few extra nights here or there to go do something fun with friends and perhaps pick up another plate to spin.
 
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