"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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LTR slowly turns me AFC

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Mjazz

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I have been in a LTR for about 5 months and slowly I am being pussified. I was well aware of this happening I could see my confidence and power leaving. Now I am seperated from her and feel so much stronger and motivated. Is this the sign of an unhealthy relationship? I know once I see her again i will dominate her, but will this happen again?

How can I prevent this from happening? I havent called her in 5 days, should I?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I don't know, man. I hear this a lot, but I don't get it.

I haven't been in a serious relationship in 5 years, but I noticed after I got settled into relationship mode, I was actually a lot more alpha.

Since I had given her a title, I wasn't worried about losing her. Not only that but since I had somebody to share everything with, I suddenly felt a lot more motivated to go out and do all kinds of interesting things I never would have done otherwise.

That implied non-removable feminine energy rejuvenated my natural guy qualities. It was kind of cool actually. I miss it sometimes.
 
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I kind of feel like this too, its strange, I have recently ended a 9 month relationship and since coming out of it I feel like a lot more things are happening in my life. I don't know, do guys get lazy when we have girlfriends?
 
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It's because YOU are letting yourself go. Get back to your roots!
 
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i know i am, but this break has already allowed me to piece myself together and shape back up. Im just wondering if I should call her or let her call me first
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Mr.Fantastic said:
I kind of feel like this too, its strange, I have recently ended a 9 month relationship and since coming out of it I feel like a lot more things are happening in my life. I don't know, do guys get lazy when we have girlfriends?
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no, that is when I do even more self-improvement
I.A.F.Y.B. said:
It's because YOU are letting yourself go. Get back to your roots!
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EXACTLY!!!

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Mr.Fantastic said:
I kind of feel like this too, its strange, I have recently ended a 9 month relationship and since coming out of it I feel like a lot more things are happening in my life. I don't know, do guys get lazy when we have girlfriends?
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yea, we do get pretty lazy when we have gf's

but it doesn't effect my alphaness. i'm actually way more confident with her than i am single. I just don't feel the need to go around parading as an alpha anymore. :p
 
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