"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LTR slowly turns me AFC

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Mjazz

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I have been in a LTR for about 5 months and slowly I am being pussified. I was well aware of this happening I could see my confidence and power leaving. Now I am seperated from her and feel so much stronger and motivated. Is this the sign of an unhealthy relationship? I know once I see her again i will dominate her, but will this happen again?

How can I prevent this from happening? I havent called her in 5 days, should I?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I don't know, man. I hear this a lot, but I don't get it.

I haven't been in a serious relationship in 5 years, but I noticed after I got settled into relationship mode, I was actually a lot more alpha.

Since I had given her a title, I wasn't worried about losing her. Not only that but since I had somebody to share everything with, I suddenly felt a lot more motivated to go out and do all kinds of interesting things I never would have done otherwise.

That implied non-removable feminine energy rejuvenated my natural guy qualities. It was kind of cool actually. I miss it sometimes.
 
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I kind of feel like this too, its strange, I have recently ended a 9 month relationship and since coming out of it I feel like a lot more things are happening in my life. I don't know, do guys get lazy when we have girlfriends?
 
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It's because YOU are letting yourself go. Get back to your roots!
 
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i know i am, but this break has already allowed me to piece myself together and shape back up. Im just wondering if I should call her or let her call me first
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mr.Fantastic said:
I kind of feel like this too, its strange, I have recently ended a 9 month relationship and since coming out of it I feel like a lot more things are happening in my life. I don't know, do guys get lazy when we have girlfriends?
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no, that is when I do even more self-improvement
I.A.F.Y.B. said:
It's because YOU are letting yourself go. Get back to your roots!
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EXACTLY!!!

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Mr.Fantastic said:
I kind of feel like this too, its strange, I have recently ended a 9 month relationship and since coming out of it I feel like a lot more things are happening in my life. I don't know, do guys get lazy when we have girlfriends?
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yea, we do get pretty lazy when we have gf's

but it doesn't effect my alphaness. i'm actually way more confident with her than i am single. I just don't feel the need to go around parading as an alpha anymore. :p
 
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