"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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LTR Questions....

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styleman

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My first LTR and got a few questions...

1. Irritation slash clingeyness - She seems to not be able to get enough of me, which is great its really flattering, but it can get a bit annoying and too distracting at times... can't get other things done.

2. Lack of effort on her part, sure I'm the man and I don't mind but surely in a LTR the girl has to take some of the weight on her shoulders...

3. One-way traffic, she kicked and screamed (not literally) to get my facebook and email passwords, and inspects my blackberry, whilst when I asked her for her password she says "I can't". I didn't care because I could not be arsed to check her facebook, email etc. but it seems so one sided sometimes...
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Cinamon

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Number 3 is a huge issue. She is invading your personal space, i would refuse on principal. IF she wants to be with you, she needs to trust you. You havent done anything to raise doubt or suspicion, then why does she need to be up in your personal space.
Unless you can be firm with her and tell her to stop and make her stop this is a preview of what the future will hold for you guys. I would run as fast as i could.
 
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YOU GAVE HER YOUR PASSWORDS?????

Change them! Change them right freaking now and tell this brat it's none of her business!

That was a SERIOUS power play on her part, especially since she didn't give you HERS! Seems the only effort she's making in this relationship is to lock you in a plastic bubble!
 
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playerone

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1) You have to set the tone and be firm about what you do. When you have something important to do, tell her you gotta do it, and go do it. Do not succumb to her if she's being unreasonable, or you'll end up being the girl in the relationship.

2) Don't get what you mean, need some specific details.

3) Do what WaterTiger said, change the passwords and if she asks why, tell her it's because you can.

The main idea is to be firm and congruent about what you do. Be a man, do what you gotta do.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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