"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LTR i'm sucked in

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ok... so it's been like 6 months-ish. I really do care about this girl, she's smoking hott, she's actually a great gf, she can't get enough of me, she's real cool, it's great bla bla. But I canNOT get her out of my head. I feel like a total afc, thinkin about this girl nonstop. I say things that sound softy, pvssy type stuff, but she eats it up, she loves it, i spose since we've been together for awhile.

Now i'm not being unrealistic, if she left out cold tonight I would be like k sucks, w/e I'm calling that other hott girl that is interested. It would really not be all that bad.

I'm really happy w/her right now, I'm totally content. She does NOT run my life and is NOT the most important part of it by any means.

But nonetheless i think about her more than i have about any other girl before... what to do, jus keep it goin?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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aside from this, btw, I actually start thinking/worrying about things like her talking to other guys, what she's doing etc. I really don't think she would ever cheat or even do anything to make me suspicious, because she knows I would be gone and she is deathly afraid of losing me, but I have been cheated on once before back in the afc days and it affects every single trust decision I make, and it has for a year and a half now, it can cut pretty deep.

Normally this sh*t doesn't bother me AT ALL, I could really care less, it's high school. But I don't know, does anyone know jack about ltr's around here?
 

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I have been cheated on once before back in the afc days and it affects every single trust decision I make
she is deathly afraid of losing me
Breathe! You'll be alright. You can't go on forever going "well what if she cheats on me". It's time you said "I'm going to not worry anymore. I have this awesome girlfriend, and even if she did cheat, it's not the end of my world. I'm happy and I'm going to enjoy every minute of my life, not worrying what could happen to it"
 

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I know a bit about LTR's and LDR's

First off, don't be insecure. It kills relationships.

Secondly, get rid of all the rules except your own.

Thirdly, its alright to think about your girl a lot but don't become obsessed with her and continue to spin plates. Just playful flirting (its in my nature to be like this) and such. Just in case anything happens you know you got back ups. It really does help with killing your desparation because then you can know that you will be fine.

Fourthly, relax.

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you are probably young. Think that you have a carrer to build. You must learn other languages, you must read several books.. dont let years go by with a girl on your mind! One day she will go away and you spent so much time thinking about her!
Think about your plans! In a way it will be a good thing for her too, but first for you, if you get on a looongtr she will benefits from your attitude of thinking about your business first.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's wrong with liking your girlfriend a lot? She's your girlfriend! If you were thinking so much about a random chick, sure that's a problem. But this is not.
 

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yeah we've actually had a little bit of friction the last couple days. I am almost positive it's because I'm not just relaxing like I usually do. I am going to admit I was wrong and stop arguing (if you've ever tried it with a woman it IS a dead end road) and pretty much just start to relax again, I'm going to actually have fun. Thanks boys I just needed to hear it to reinforce.
 

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kev me723 said:
ok... so it's been like 6 months-ish. I really do care about this girl, she's smoking hott, she's actually a great gf, she can't get enough of me, she's real cool, it's great bla bla. But I canNOT get her out of my head. I feel like a total afc, thinkin about this girl nonstop. I say things that sound softy, pvssy type stuff, but she eats it up, she loves it, i spose since we've been together for awhile.

Now i'm not being unrealistic, if she left out cold tonight I would be like k sucks, w/e I'm calling that other hott girl that is interested. It would really not be all that bad.

I'm really happy w/her right now, I'm totally content. She does NOT run my life and is NOT the most important part of it by any means.

But nonetheless i think about her more than i have about any other girl before... what to do, jus keep it goin?

Don't think about her too much. Just be exciting and unpredictable...while at the same time, caring and such.

If you start acting like a wimp, she will lose respect for you.
 

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I kinda have a same problem!1 I got rejected by a girl and still cant stop thinking about her.. Lmao and she was 2 years older than me!!!!!!
 

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dude.. i never got rejected, i actually have a reason to think about her, cuz she does the same thing with me haha.. but aaaanyway, judging by tonight, I have NOTHING to do with the words wussy, puss, wimp, afc, etc... TRUST ME ;) wow yeah so I'm just chillin now and I have stopped worrying, which she def. notced heheh and it's working great, so.. hell yeah keep mackin kids
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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This isn't a problem in my opinion. Just enjoy it while it lasts man.
 
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