LTR help!

[hydrocodone]

recently my g/f of 2 years moved to ca to finish her senior year there. and about 2 weeks ago she was raped by some guy there. and ever since then its changed her. shes been completely ignoring me on the phone,never calls or anything. i told her i would be there for her and support her and everything and it seems to be driving her away even more and for some strange reason i am now the needy one. it used to be the complete opposite before. i know something really trajic happend to her and i told her if she needs time alone ill just leave her alone untill she recovers. but i dont know i hate being the last priority in anyrelationship.and inside i cant stand beign ignored. after reading all these articles on this site about making myself a "prize" and how she'll compete for me again if theres a challenge with other girls i talk to im wondering if that would even work on her. well ive been doing that and im thinking only 2 things will come out of it. she'll be back on my n*ts or dump me. what do you guys think about all this and what i should do?

 

[frivolousz21]

alright....

that sucks for her.

if she is even telling u the truth.


your relationship was over the moment she decided to go away from you to CA.

and it ended the moment she left.

read the DJ bible..and pick up and move on.

 

[shark]

Nah don't listen to this guy. Things are diffrent in a LTR. As long as she knows your their (emotianally) for her, thats all you can do when your so far apart. Something tragic has happend, and yes she may need time to recover. Don't feel bad for yourself, just try and relax and be happy that she will be getting better and better every day. You don't need to excessivly call her, just enought to show you care for her.

 

[hydrocodone]

she was forced to move there with her mom cause her dad didnt like her.and she was planning to move in with me when she turned 18 (in like 7 months). i mustve left that out in the post.

 

[locarius]

No one here is qualified to help. Both of you should seek counseling.

 

[frivolousz21]

Nah don't listen to this guy. Things are diffrent in a LTR. As long as she knows your their (emotianally) for her, thats all you can do when your so far apart. Something tragic has happend, and yes she may need time to recover. Don't feel bad for yourself, just try and relax and be happy that she will be getting better and better every day. You don't need to excessivly call her, just enought to show you care for her.

what? why would she throw the guys she loves more than anything out of her life because of a tragidy?

she was forced to move there with her mom cause her dad didnt like her.and she was planning to move in with me when she turned 18 (in like 7 months). i mustve left that out in the post.

id say yea thats something pretty big to leave out.

 

[Desdinova]

I'm with friv. Something isn't quite right here, and I smell bs. There is a good chance she wants to completely cut you off since she doesn't live near you anymore.

Whatever the case, there isn't any point in holding onto her for a LTR regardless of whether she was or wasn't raped. Maintaining a LDR is almost impossible if the two of you aren't seeing each other at all.

 

[shark]

WRONG WRONG WRONG..it all depends. Is this girl a AW that would make sense for her to make something like this up? Is she sometime flaky and flirty?

If the answer is no to these, and you truly LOVE her and sure she LVOES you back then a LTR/LDR can definetly work but it will be ALOT harder.

 

[Sophomakhos]

My own inkling is that this is far too big an issue to be dealt with by random guys you know on the internet who may or may not be 'Don Juans', no matter how experienced they are in seducing women. I'd imagine that after 2 years you already know each other far too well to try out quirky seduction tricks on her. If she's been raped, then it will have been seriously psychologically disturbing for her. I'm with locarius - if it's true that she's been raped, then only professional help can do anything for you. If you're not sure that she's been raped, you shouldn't be discussing this on the forum at all.

 

[hydrocodone]

yeah definatley not flakey or flirty and extremely loyal, i know she wouldnt make something like that up. but it just sucks ass. i cant stand the ignoring thing i dont wanna pester her by calling every day and seem all needy. i guess i just need to relax about it and wait it out.