Sorry for the length but I would really appreciate any advice
So I have been lurking around on this website for a while, lapping up the awesome tips and articles, so thanks guys! I have also read the system by Doc Love which I found full of useful information even if there are a few areas which I believe do not apply to British girls in the same way they do to your American girls!
I have been fairly confident with women and have had a 4 year relationship and have generally been seeing girls since that ended 2 years ago.
So I'll give you a back story of my current relationship and apologies if it is long winded but I want to give as much detail as possible!
So I have not met a girl from POF, which I am ok about as it it harder to find decent girls from the town I'm from. I have now been seeing her about 3 months and it's been really good. I have tried to apply most of the tips on this forum and Doc Love, ie never truly telling a girl how you feel, acting confident, not acting jealous and constant teasing/neg hits which i find works well with British girls as they at batting them back! She has told me she really likes me on numerous occasions and often tells me how her family really like me. I have been to two of her best mates wedding receptions (the second of which this article is really about). She is aware of a couple of other girls which are after me (1 my ex) and it causes slight jealously but also creates challenge for her which she has told me she doesn't like. I also know the last guy she was seeing for a few months which was 2 months prior to seeing her but she was still in contact with. She has told me it ended badly and was upset but she doesn't talk about him and I don't believe she is interested anymore. I have told her I am not worried if she talks to him as I am a better man in looks and personality and I do not get jealous, to which she has said she would never talk to him again.
So now I have just got back this morning from the wedding reception. She made me aware that her ex from about 5 years ago would be there and I said I was not worried and would come as I knew she wanted me to come. I get there and she asks me to kiss her pretty close to where he is standing to which I say "later" as he is there and I do not want to cause conflict which puts her off slightly. However on the dance floor I am dancing with her and making out, all of which is her doing. She is pretty drunk at this point I'll add. So I take a seat every so often so she can dance with her gfs so I do not smother her. I am talking to some of her mates with her I recognize and we come to the conclusion it was through my ex at which point she walks away. I then go outside leaving her on the dance floor to take a call when a girl who is a client from work recognizes me and we start talking which is when my gf comes over to see if I'm ok. We then sit down with some of her mates 2 guys and one girl. She has known the guys a while, who one of which her and her mates consider a bit of a douch. I let her sit on my lap as she talks away whilst I receive a text from one of my "competition" girls which she sees but does not mention. So she is talking away to this guy who is giving the spiel of how he is a changed man and I get up to get drinks and leave her on her own with him now. I come back and they are still chatting, we finish our drinks and he makes a joke of whether he can have her for tonight which I reply with "sure, 20, for a night" ( which in hindsight was wrong). Back on the dance floor we have a little dance and I go to get more drinks and have a seat, and she is dancing away with guy being slightly touchy feely with him, which I don't like. I let it go on and one of her mates says ignore it after seeing me looking for a sec. After 30 mins or o I go up to her calmly and say I'm gonna call it a night, she looks shocked and i say goodbye to her mates. We walk out to the hall and she is visibly quiet and annoyed with me for leaving. I say I'm gonna go home even though I was gonna go to a house party. But I ask if she was ok and why she was annoyed and she says she's not but why am I leaving. I then confess I was annoyed she was dancing with that guy and being flirty and I felt it showed disrespect and I believe she was trying to make me jealous (which I didn't want to say but I thought i needed to call her out). She said why don;t you trust me then started bringing up my ex and the text she saw earlier and how this guy she was flirting with said if they were together he would tell everyone as she finds it annoying I hold back slighty. She said go home and I said I would stay till the end. We sat down near the dance floor and she said that she hated the competition as she though both the girls were prettier and she was ugly. I reassured her that was not the the case. After that she was all over me again and I ended up staying and having sex with her that night. The sex (sorry to go into detail) was good but she said she just wanted me to orgasm as she wanted to make sure she was good enough and then continued to tell me she really liked me. So i assume some of this was the drink.
Upon waking we were still cuddly and kissing even though she accused me of having a hissy fit to which i said she had 3. I said I'd leave before breakfast and then left however it was slightly awkward but still snogged me and told me to text her soon.
So from this I am just slightly confused as this was our first argument and I see a future with her as I believe she is worthy of a LTR. I just want some advice on where I have gone wrong and what I have done right and whether or not there are bad red flags showing.
Thanks guys for reading!
So I have been lurking around on this website for a while, lapping up the awesome tips and articles, so thanks guys! I have also read the system by Doc Love which I found full of useful information even if there are a few areas which I believe do not apply to British girls in the same way they do to your American girls!
I have been fairly confident with women and have had a 4 year relationship and have generally been seeing girls since that ended 2 years ago.
So I'll give you a back story of my current relationship and apologies if it is long winded but I want to give as much detail as possible!
So I have not met a girl from POF, which I am ok about as it it harder to find decent girls from the town I'm from. I have now been seeing her about 3 months and it's been really good. I have tried to apply most of the tips on this forum and Doc Love, ie never truly telling a girl how you feel, acting confident, not acting jealous and constant teasing/neg hits which i find works well with British girls as they at batting them back! She has told me she really likes me on numerous occasions and often tells me how her family really like me. I have been to two of her best mates wedding receptions (the second of which this article is really about). She is aware of a couple of other girls which are after me (1 my ex) and it causes slight jealously but also creates challenge for her which she has told me she doesn't like. I also know the last guy she was seeing for a few months which was 2 months prior to seeing her but she was still in contact with. She has told me it ended badly and was upset but she doesn't talk about him and I don't believe she is interested anymore. I have told her I am not worried if she talks to him as I am a better man in looks and personality and I do not get jealous, to which she has said she would never talk to him again.
So now I have just got back this morning from the wedding reception. She made me aware that her ex from about 5 years ago would be there and I said I was not worried and would come as I knew she wanted me to come. I get there and she asks me to kiss her pretty close to where he is standing to which I say "later" as he is there and I do not want to cause conflict which puts her off slightly. However on the dance floor I am dancing with her and making out, all of which is her doing. She is pretty drunk at this point I'll add. So I take a seat every so often so she can dance with her gfs so I do not smother her. I am talking to some of her mates with her I recognize and we come to the conclusion it was through my ex at which point she walks away. I then go outside leaving her on the dance floor to take a call when a girl who is a client from work recognizes me and we start talking which is when my gf comes over to see if I'm ok. We then sit down with some of her mates 2 guys and one girl. She has known the guys a while, who one of which her and her mates consider a bit of a douch. I let her sit on my lap as she talks away whilst I receive a text from one of my "competition" girls which she sees but does not mention. So she is talking away to this guy who is giving the spiel of how he is a changed man and I get up to get drinks and leave her on her own with him now. I come back and they are still chatting, we finish our drinks and he makes a joke of whether he can have her for tonight which I reply with "sure, 20, for a night" ( which in hindsight was wrong). Back on the dance floor we have a little dance and I go to get more drinks and have a seat, and she is dancing away with guy being slightly touchy feely with him, which I don't like. I let it go on and one of her mates says ignore it after seeing me looking for a sec. After 30 mins or o I go up to her calmly and say I'm gonna call it a night, she looks shocked and i say goodbye to her mates. We walk out to the hall and she is visibly quiet and annoyed with me for leaving. I say I'm gonna go home even though I was gonna go to a house party. But I ask if she was ok and why she was annoyed and she says she's not but why am I leaving. I then confess I was annoyed she was dancing with that guy and being flirty and I felt it showed disrespect and I believe she was trying to make me jealous (which I didn't want to say but I thought i needed to call her out). She said why don;t you trust me then started bringing up my ex and the text she saw earlier and how this guy she was flirting with said if they were together he would tell everyone as she finds it annoying I hold back slighty. She said go home and I said I would stay till the end. We sat down near the dance floor and she said that she hated the competition as she though both the girls were prettier and she was ugly. I reassured her that was not the the case. After that she was all over me again and I ended up staying and having sex with her that night. The sex (sorry to go into detail) was good but she said she just wanted me to orgasm as she wanted to make sure she was good enough and then continued to tell me she really liked me. So i assume some of this was the drink.
Upon waking we were still cuddly and kissing even though she accused me of having a hissy fit to which i said she had 3. I said I'd leave before breakfast and then left however it was slightly awkward but still snogged me and told me to text her soon.
So from this I am just slightly confused as this was our first argument and I see a future with her as I believe she is worthy of a LTR. I just want some advice on where I have gone wrong and what I have done right and whether or not there are bad red flags showing.
Thanks guys for reading!