LTR Fight

[Walking Anomaly]

Hey all...

Hows life treatin yas?

Things have been going good for me lately...hit a rough spot though.

Got in to a fight with me gf of 1+yr tonight...Things started well for the night, went out had some fun. We get back to her house and im puttin on the charm...things are going great, giggling n kissin n whatnot... and she says shes startin to get cramps (pms = mood about to get cranky). So i told her alright, I had to leave early tonight because of things i had planned for tomorrow morning, and she says, "No, stay." Anyway things start to get into sex, and im puttin the condom on (which she didnt know i had because she had previously searched my pockets as a joke lookin for shyt to steal) and she says "ugh, i never know what you have in your hand, you're so sneaky and i dont know why you bother if its not going to work." (heres the cranky)

btw she means the sex isnt gonna work (gynacological problems that are supposedly going away - nothing to do with infections tho haha)

Anyway i didnt like this to say the least, because parents got divorced because of father havin extra-marital activities..he was SNEAKY...and i hate him for that, and i dont ever want to be called that, i dont want to be like him.

So i say huh?...okay then...and i get dressed and get ready to leave. Going out the door I say, "Arent you going to say goodbye." "I dont know, you're being kind of a ****" she says.

So i tell her, "why am i a ****?" " you're kinda sayin to me, 'Oh we arent gonna have sex, bye." she tells me.

"what am i supposed to do, stay here when you just ruined the mood?. Im not gonna stay here if youre gonna be in a cranky mood. And i dont even care about the not having sex....You're just in a real shyt mood.

"alright, goodnight." I say and leave

That friggin bothered me that she called me sneaky like my dovche father...Hate him for what he did and i dont want to be like him.

It seems kinda trivial that i got mad as im writing this, but it struck a chord and i didnt like it, so i left. Was i wrong to get mad??

We'll see what happens, with calling and what not
Weve been together for a year + so being childish about who calls first being the weaker one shouldnt come in to play.

......I aint callin first haha.

Its late, wanted to post this, get some insight or criticism from everyone.


Much appreciated
~WA

 

[Walking Anomaly]

ahh nothin huh

 

[Phyzzle]

Just PMS. It's nothing. This is the worst argument you've had in a year? Sheesh.

 

[alphaace]

Even though you had plans for the morning the next day, if you were willing to stay for sex, you should be willing to stay a couple minutes and comfort her with her pains, it is kinda rude if you just leave if your not going to have sex, atleast thats what she thinks. Chicks just want to feel comfortable and appreciated. She probably just thinks your interested in her for the sex. Best thing to do is just apologize to her and do something to make it up to her, even if you dont want to, she will see it as a good thing...........assuming you both want to stay together.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

Even though you had plans for the morning the next day, if you were willing to stay for sex, you should be willing to stay a couple minutes and comfort her with her pains, it is kinda rude if you just leave if your not going to have sex, atleast thats what she thinks. Chicks just want to feel comfortable and appreciated. She probably just thinks your interested in her for the sex. Best thing to do is just apologize to her and do something to make it up to her, even if you dont want to, she will see it as a good thing...........assuming you both want to stay together.

Yea i see what you're saying...I basically left in a moment of heat because she offended me with the sneaky comment...I mean i hate my father because he was sneaky around my mother, so to be described that way suggesting to me that im like my father got me angry...However she does not yet know this.

She thinks I left because we didnt have sex, im sure. It'll get cleared up when I call to talk or to make plans to meet up and talk.

~WA

 

[Bobbles]

I think you both need to work on your communication. Having arguments where you both aren't really arguing about the things you are arguing about is pointless as it can be avoided. If you had told her right there and then that you were hurt about her sneaky comment because of other reasons as opposed to just getting mad because you were hurt, things would have been better. Encouraging her to talk about what is really bothering her is a good thing too.