Canadianpimpology
Senior Don Juan
This might be a little long, but I really need the help. Plus, tons of those posts in the DJ Bible are loads longer than this. So suck it up and get through it.
Ok, so here's the deal. I've been with my gf, Jax, for 18 months. It's been pretty good, but we'd been fighting a lot lately. But we always got through things. Anyways, Jax has some issues. She gets really jealous when it comes to me and other girls. One of my ex's and I, are pretty good friends. I went to see a play that my ex was in, but not b/c of my ex. My friend dragged me along. Anyway, Jax got upset b/c she thought I went to see my ex. Not true, but she didn't believe. I said whatever and life continued.
On Monday, we were back at school, and she's being pretty shady to me. She was upset about something and she didn't wanna tell me. And she wasn't acting right. So I told her, "Jax, stay away from me until you want to act like my girl." She left the are I was while I was saying that to her, and was obviously upset and mad. She came back to where I was a couple minutes after and tossed me back the ring that I gave her for our one year anny. I told her, if she ever took that ring off b/c she was upset at me, I would take that as she didn't want the committment of being with me. The ring incident and the fact that she was acting unacceptable made me confront her outside and tell her that "it was over." I really just wanted a break though.
That night, she just told me that we needed a break, and I told her I agree. She was really upset though, and bitched about how I lied to her and she didn't trust me, and how I had feeling for my ex. The next day, we didn't really talk at school, but this one girl started hitting on me and was putting her arm around me at school in front of Jax. I pushed the girl off me though (she's ugly) as soon as I knew what she was doing and I told her, "Don't do that." Still though, that got Jax really upset and she started to cry for the rest of the school day (from what I heard). Plus, when I talked to Jax about it, Jax said that she didn't see me at all taking the other girl's arm off. She failed to see that.
Lately, Jax has been calling me a lot. On Tuesday and Wednesday, she must have called about 10 times put together. I only talked to her two or three of those times though, and she just continues to yell, not believe me, etc. She's not ready to go back out with me, and she says that she doesn't know if we'll ever go back out with me. I am sure though that she loves me a lot and wants to go back out with me. She is just saying these things to protect herself. The thing is, everytime we talk now, I just end up feeling mistreated and hurt now. So I'm not talking to her. She says that maybe in a month we'll get back together, but she's not ready yet. She asked me last night if it's really over or not, because if it was really fully over, then it would be easier for her to get over.
Guys, I'm in love with Jax, and she's in love with me. You must understand that love doesn't go away overnight, nor can you just "NEXT!" someone you've been with for that long in high school just like that. I really would like to be with her, but I need some analysis from you guys of everything so far, and what things might you suggest. And yes, I've been talking/considering other girls. That's not the point of this post though. I just want replies to be focused on what I should do in my situation with Jax. Thanks a lot to everyone that replies. I'm in some real pain right now.
-Aaron-
Ok, so here's the deal. I've been with my gf, Jax, for 18 months. It's been pretty good, but we'd been fighting a lot lately. But we always got through things. Anyways, Jax has some issues. She gets really jealous when it comes to me and other girls. One of my ex's and I, are pretty good friends. I went to see a play that my ex was in, but not b/c of my ex. My friend dragged me along. Anyway, Jax got upset b/c she thought I went to see my ex. Not true, but she didn't believe. I said whatever and life continued.
On Monday, we were back at school, and she's being pretty shady to me. She was upset about something and she didn't wanna tell me. And she wasn't acting right. So I told her, "Jax, stay away from me until you want to act like my girl." She left the are I was while I was saying that to her, and was obviously upset and mad. She came back to where I was a couple minutes after and tossed me back the ring that I gave her for our one year anny. I told her, if she ever took that ring off b/c she was upset at me, I would take that as she didn't want the committment of being with me. The ring incident and the fact that she was acting unacceptable made me confront her outside and tell her that "it was over." I really just wanted a break though.
That night, she just told me that we needed a break, and I told her I agree. She was really upset though, and bitched about how I lied to her and she didn't trust me, and how I had feeling for my ex. The next day, we didn't really talk at school, but this one girl started hitting on me and was putting her arm around me at school in front of Jax. I pushed the girl off me though (she's ugly) as soon as I knew what she was doing and I told her, "Don't do that." Still though, that got Jax really upset and she started to cry for the rest of the school day (from what I heard). Plus, when I talked to Jax about it, Jax said that she didn't see me at all taking the other girl's arm off. She failed to see that.
Lately, Jax has been calling me a lot. On Tuesday and Wednesday, she must have called about 10 times put together. I only talked to her two or three of those times though, and she just continues to yell, not believe me, etc. She's not ready to go back out with me, and she says that she doesn't know if we'll ever go back out with me. I am sure though that she loves me a lot and wants to go back out with me. She is just saying these things to protect herself. The thing is, everytime we talk now, I just end up feeling mistreated and hurt now. So I'm not talking to her. She says that maybe in a month we'll get back together, but she's not ready yet. She asked me last night if it's really over or not, because if it was really fully over, then it would be easier for her to get over.
Guys, I'm in love with Jax, and she's in love with me. You must understand that love doesn't go away overnight, nor can you just "NEXT!" someone you've been with for that long in high school just like that. I really would like to be with her, but I need some analysis from you guys of everything so far, and what things might you suggest. And yes, I've been talking/considering other girls. That's not the point of this post though. I just want replies to be focused on what I should do in my situation with Jax. Thanks a lot to everyone that replies. I'm in some real pain right now.
-Aaron-