LTR advice needed

[Royce]

Backstory:
I am at a point in my life where I have been seeing a girl (20yo) for over a year (ive known her for over 5). For about 6 months we have been long distance and while she seem's more in love with me than ever I partially have enjoyed the distance. I admit when it comes to relationships I have never had a good track record (fear of commitiment and tendency to cheat), but with her (or maybe I am just growing up) I feel sincere guilt over my actions. While I still activly go out and pickup, enjoy the hunt, and put forward my best effort; I consistently find that when closing the HB is pushing for it more than I. Now, I'm not the jealous type and trust my GF (funny seeing how I act). I guess I feel enough for my GF, I don't know, new territory for me.

So this is what I need advice on.
She has recently told me she is re-evaluating her life, and wants me to be in it more (dosn't like the distance). She plans to move to the state I'm currently in after July, restart school down here (possibly the same one I attend)- has even talked about moving in with me. She want's to get serious and settle down (not marriage but the long term engagement deal). Now I do care about her, and dont nessecarly think this is a bad thing (good to see she's growing up and taking her life more seriously), but I still like my independence and the whole commitment thing (for the long term) really gets to me.

Anyways, just wondering if anyone has had experience living with their LTR GF, how it went and ANY advice you could give.

Not looking to dump her and move on, believe it or not I actually have feelings for her and we've been through a lot together (something thats built trust I have not had with other relationships).

Thanks

-Rolls Royce

 

[KontrollerX]

If she could move down there and get a place for herself and not move in with you that would be for the best.

Rollo has had some great posts about how relationships get destroyed by moving in with eachother much too soon.

The reason is the competitive fire is all too often extinguished because neither of you have a bit of fear about having to be at your best so that your partner doesn't leave you. Moving in together also creates a comfort and routine that many quickly get tired of. In short you two can begin to get fed up with eachother from having no time apart and no distance with which to miss eachother in.

 

[Interceptor]

Do not move in together.
At your age you should be thinking about getting your life together and having a wide pallette of dating experiences.
Make sure you do not get as seriously involved just to make her happy.
You must make peace with the probability that she will not agree and end the relationship.
You need to be honest and tell her what you are feeling before she makes and big life changing decisions.

 

[WC2]

Agreed, you are too young to move in with any chick at this point.

Not just because you should be dating other women well through your 20s, but because living with another women has a strange way of sneaking up on you. Sneaking up on you as in you'll

1. Get into stupid routines that will becoming boring and non-beneficial to yourself

2. Will be limited to expanding your horizons with not just other women, but in all aspects of life.

3. Get the man power sucked out of you from this day in and day out of being around each other so much.

You may have found a quality girl, fine. But 22 is such a young age to stop succeeding on your OWN. You don't really need to settle down at this point. If you were 30 then maybe I'd say hey, settling down isn't a bad option (if thats' what you want). But at this point in time, settling down will just slow down your ability to improve yourself.

 

[Royce]

Hmm,

Yeah I have been thinking this over and I believe your right, this scares the **** out of me. God she's rushing me - I need to call her and straighten this out. She cant desicrate my bachelors pad...

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That didnt go well at all,
where's me papers