"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LR: party, date, party

KinkyMan

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been awhile, i generally do not like the attitude on here, which led me to post some odd ideas, anyways i'm back and i have more experience and would like to help people who actually want help on how to Love girls

-talked to this girl a couple brief times before, usually in a stance where it was apparent i was interested in her but distant, knew her from mutual friends

-got girl's number at a party, just said "hey i know we havent talked much but what is your number, do you think that is a good idea?" -didnt look for reaction- put my hand on her shoulder and said i'd probably call her sometime

-called 3 days later, i say "hey would you like to get coffee on thursday(3 days later)? ... 8:30 then?"

-10min late to her place, we go to coffee, I pay, then i take her to my place to watch me eat, then to a pool hall (she pays), then to a bar (dutch) ... asked some questions to she if she was interesting, somehow she knows about party i am going to, she asks me to drive her, i do kiss test, she hugs, she invites me we have a drink and I make no further move

-i call twice the next day, second time leaving a message saying "if you want me to drive you give me a call" , she calls back and says ok, we go to the party, i let her do her own thing, but gradually go back to her, we dance, i let this creep talk to her forever, we agree that it is time to leave, she explains about the other guys she was talking to and how she isnt interested, i hold her hand on way to car

-she invites me in again, kisses me - i move my face so it lands on my cheek, we start making out, she invites me into her room, we go at it, i stay the night, we go at it again, btw i plan on calling again ...


here are the keys
1. flirt subdued ****y-funny sporatically
2. share many interests, share some stories of fun things you have done/do
3. if the conversation dulls, if she talks to another guy, if she gives you an odd look, Always remain calm and cool
4. realize that it is easier when you are geniunely interested in the girl and find her very attractive, and that this is the point in the first place
5. know when to strike, e.g. I knew I had to get her number at that party or it was too late
6. do what you are afraid of, e.g. I did not really feel like calling a second time about the second party, but I remembered that girls are insecure and I wanted to show her that it was what I wanted
7. use a little push-pull but too much and nobody gets what they want
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Distant Light

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next time try to be more detail it helps. (conversations, body language, and what u were thinking.)
 

KinkyMan

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i think that's the point, don't think too hard, just have fun, and remember you have to take the initiative cuz girls are not so sure of themselves

e.g. remember to have good body language, but more importantly don't focus on your body language

just have a couple positive beliefs in line and good things can happen
 
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